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I think one major argument that he didn't mention is that NYC beats SF hands down in the 'getting laid' department.

If you are young and your idea of having a good time is going out, partying until 4am, and getting laid often, then you should stay in NYC.

If you a super hipster, social outcast and/or into weird stuff, then come to SF. Your friends are already here.

I actually had a similar experience. Spent most of my life in SF but lived for about 6 months in Manhattan. It was far, far easier to meet women. In fact, a guy can even be a bit of a wallflower and still meet women in Manhattan, because they will take the initiative. Funny, up to that point, I thought SF was a pretty good place to meet women, because my only point of comparison was San Diego, which is a pretty rough dating scene for men. I actually still think SF is ok, because it has a greater concentration of jobs that appeal to women, as opposed to the valley. But it's no manhattan (I suspect that nowhere else in the world really compares). You know, this is actually one of the benefits of being in a city where tech isn't the main industry. New York is a far bigger center than SF for fashion, publishing, advertising, and so forth - fields that attract more women than men.

San Diego isn't that rough; it's only rough if you aren't in the "scene". That said, if it isn't your thing, then I could see why it wouldn't work out - Las Vegas was rough for me because my personality didn't fit in with the "scene" there.

Having lived on the east coast, midwest, and west coast, I would say the resources are certainly different at a business level (capital, talent, etc) although you can certainly make do wherever you go.

However, anyone who thinks there are hot girls in SF has never left SF.

anyone who thinks there are hot girls in SF has never left SF

Wil, you haven't lived here long enough to even know where to look. Also, SF != the bay area.

It's shocking to me how few women there are in SF. The east coast is crawling with good looking, single young women. Most of them are really nice normal women with family oriented goals.

Then NYC is full of wild girls that like to dress up, go out and have fun. LA is great in this regard too.

Sure there are plenty of women in SF, but a good share of them are alt, hipster, vegan, etc. Nice enough still, but then the concentration of fairly well off guys really messes up the dating pool. Every time I go to a concert, it's mostly dudes and what women are there are literally held onto by a man.

Then there are no no party girls anywhere, outside of a couple neighborhoods.

SF still is really fun, just a lot tougher to get laid.

Lots of hot, young girls in NYC ... but if you're running a startup, goooood luck. Tell them you work at a hedge fund instead, then maybe you'll get laid.

Actually girls in NYC are attracted to success and most women here are very impressed by "I started my own company in NYC". Although this is where your ability to "massage" the truth comes into play.

Pretend for a second that you realize that girls read HN too.

If you massage the truth about your company, it's inconceivable that I would sleep with you, let alone take you seriously.

I really appreciate the honesty here. But what are you exactly conceding to: that you'll only sleep with me if I truly earn above a pre-determined salary figure (because apparently women appreciates honesty), or that you'll still sleep with me if I come clean and tell you that I'm a just average normal thousandaire (because apparently women appreciates honesty).

Perhaps neither. In finding you attractive, I am interested in your character (your ideas, imagination, execution), so lying to me will be useless because I'm not interested in what you're working on as much as why and how you're working on it.

In taking you seriously, I am interested in your business (working with you, connecting you with people who might benefit your company), so lying to me will actually hurt you because you'll portray your company inaccurately.

Assuming you discover the fact that the truth is massaged...

>Pretend for a second that you realize that girls read HN too.

Honestly, I don't think it's very many. There was a poll a few days ago and I think the male to female ratio was was something like 9:1.

And I'm pretty sure I can sometimes (with very high confidence) identify women who don't read Hacker News.

Seconded. All I have to do in the clubs is tell them that I work in Murders & Execution and next thing you know, I'm hailing a cab with my new catch in-tow.

... I have to go return some video-tapes.

There are plenty of men in SF if that suits you.

why would people vote this comment down?

B/c the OP just finished writing several paragraphs about women. Getting laid with men obviously doesn't 'suit' him, so the comment was a bit misdirected.

Generally it's correct, but sounds a bit snarky when directed at someone who is clearly hetero.

Commenter is pointing out something highly relevant about San Francisco, and more importantly the article says, "In short, New York City is more interesting and—I believe—better suited for the startup and a young guy’s lifestyle."

Young guy does not just mean heterosexual. If you're talking about best possible choices for founding a company, for gay men what he's complaining about would not be an issue.

The female to male ratio is an awesome point for living in NY, but if you're looking at it from the point of a good place to hack and build a startup - it's not really relevant. When you think about it, chasing tail takes time and energy that will distract your focus on your startup.

I'm from the east coast too. Been there, done that.

To be fair, the point is that you'll spend less energy doing so. And I don't think temptation or whatnot is a mitigating factor, I'd say that's geography agnostic.

From my experience, which may vary from others, I don't think so. It's like saying that you'll lose weight when you continually hang out at the warehouse candy store that gives free samples from time to time, since it's cheaper and easier to get candy than from the fancy pricey candy store.

I still say it's a actually a disadvantage for your start up. I'm not even counting the creativity and focus you inadvertently use for it, or even what you need for your wardrobe.

I still say: if you're in a big city, the only person to blame about not meeting women is yourself. Be creative. Show girls that you're interesting and like to have fun. For fun I took an acting class in LA, another city of men. It was a small class with a 3:1 ratio -- 3 girls per guy -- and several of the girls were models. If that's not your thing, try an aerobics class at your gym. Idk, put yourself out there in situations where you see the same girls over time AND get to show your real self. Be real with people and they will like you.

If you are into health & fitness, try Bikram Yoga. It's the kind where you're in extreme heat. And there's also some extremely fit/attractive women there. Google for the closest one in your area.

FYI: I have found a great mix of people there; so, it's not feminine. Actually, the founder is an Indian man. Also, it's a little expensive, but you get what you pay for.

There's a reason why San Jose is considered Man Jose.

http://whytherearenogirls.blogspot.com/. Enough said.

In this regard, Chicago trumps all. Chicago is to New York, as New York is to SF. Normalize this graph for population and you'll see what I mean: http://scienceblogs.com/pharyngula/2007/06/where_are_all_the...

As a Chicago native and a current Manhattan resident I'll have to respectively disagree. The amount of single women in Manhattan is staggering, noticeable and quite frankly of higher quality. For the record - I still love Midwest women.

It's the Sex and the City effect, for better or for worse.

As a single hetero male I have never seen a single episode of Sex and the City, but I can speak wonders on what it has done for the single man in NYC (and the world for that matter). Thank you SJP...I say the former (better).

Please. Chicago has no culture, no vibe, no personality. People there are, by and large, spending their adulthoods trying to overcome their religious upbringing. The weather sucks, the business climate is mainly stuck in the 1930s. There's no There there. What's good about it, again?

I'm sorry if Chicago beat you up and took your lunch money.

I've never tried living there, but it's a great place to visit. Great food, great museums, great parks, Great Lake. Blues music. You can get there on a train from many places.

Also, 37 Signals seems to be doing OK there.

If you think Chicago has "great food" then you need to try some real restaurant towns (i.e. SF and NYC). Chicago's idea of great food is thick-crust pizza. The parks don't compare to most other cities', and if you want genuine blues music, you need to head south. The blues wasn't born up north.

37 Signals: well, a couple of people live there, yeah. The founder, who was born there and apparently doesn't know that you don't have to live in a crappy town, and DHH, who is from Denmark -- same exact climate, so I'm sure he feels right at home.

Chicago has no soul. It's a bunch of buildings. Visit a town with personality and you'll see what I mean.

Not every time, but much of the time, I try to talk about what I do with a New Yorker (most East Coasters, actually), they start by bringing a lot of stop energy[0]. They'll say something like "Why are you doing that when there's already X?"[1], "That'll never work because of Y"[2], "Why did you quit your job at Z?", "Why don't you go work at ABC Investments, Hedge Funds, and Worldwide Arbitrage, Inc?"[3], etc.

It's frustrating and tiring to have to run through a huge body of what should be background knowledge just to have a conversation with someone about what I'm doing.

In the Bay Area, I generally don't have to deal with:

- Huge amounts of stop energy.

- Myopic views about which industries/products/companies/places[4] matter.

- Support of entrenched monopolies or ideas.

- Excessive amounts of negativism.

For example, when the iPhone came out, people in Silicon Valley were really excited. Meanwhile, talking to people in New York, it was almost a non-event; all I heard from them was why it would never matter because the Blackberry was so freaking awesome.

[0] http://www.userland.com/whatIsStopEnergy

[1] Why are you going to work for Apple? Nobody uses Macs and Microsoft is a much bigger tech company.

[2] Nobody here uses iPhones, you'd better get yourself a Blackberry!

[3] The future is bundling mortgage securities!

[4] If you can't find it in Manhattan, it can't be found! Best city in the world!

I'm not sure a little stop energy is such a bad thing. I'd say take their views with some salt...but Silicon Valley tends to be an echo-chamber. What's important in the valley isn't always important everywhere else. Unless your business/venture/idea is only targeted at people in the Bay Area, it pays to keep a little attention elsewhere.

Sure, but I and most of my friends and colleagues spend all day every day thinking about and working on things which could be described as "the future". The things I think are important are often things I think are going to be important 3 or more years down the road, and that's why I'm working on them. That potential may not be realized, but I can derive absolutely no value from talking about them with someone who refuses to look beyond the here and now.

An imagined future with no grounding in the present is as useful as an oil rig on a hot air balloon. ;-) Keep inventing the future...but ignore the Luddites at your own peril.

I think the iPhone alone proves that wrong.

I really don't think the initial iPhone announcement was a "non-event" anywhere in the US, and especially in New York...

For example, when the iPhone came out, ... in New York, it was almost a non-event;

Really?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_iSE0bBgUsQ

Yes, really. At that point the NY tech scene still considered iPhones to be toys.

I think a lot of people (and businesses) don't consider them to be toys anymore because, in recent iOS updates (2.0/3.0+) Apple has started to fully embrace some Blackberry/WinMo features -- remote wipe, exchange support, etc.

Also, who really bought the first gen iPhone? The original iPhone did well, but the iPhone wasn't a blockbuster hit until the 3G/2.0 came out with the App Store and other features that had led a lot of critics to dismiss the original phone a year before that.

Having lived in the north east my entire life, I completely agree. Although, I built up a resistance to it after a while. It has definitely hurt some relationships in the past.

But, can this attitude be said for lots of cities?

[0] is awesome, thanks. I encounter a lot of stop energy, and unfortunately sometimes it works on me. I need to just ignore it.

Do you really find that the types of responses you get can be stereotyped by the person's location?

I just have a hard time believing that qualities like this can be chalked up to location and certain parts of the country, but perhaps I'm naive (and I have no experience living on the west coast).

Yes. It's a generalization, so there are always exceptions, but in general east coasters are much less accepting of things and ideas outside the norm than are west coasters.

You should have good responses to questions loaded with "stop energy" anyways.

It makes for extremely tedious conversation. These aren't investors or customers I'm talking to.

  San Francisco is fun, don’t get me wrong. Compared to New York, 
  it’s boring. I have trouble even thinking about living in an 
  apartment in Mountain View, Cupertino or Palo Alto. Those places 
  are socially dead.

Mountain View, Cupertino or Palo Alto are not San Francisco. It is like saying...

  New York City is fun, don’t get me wrong. Compared to San Francisco, 
  it’s boring. I have trouble even thinking about living in an apartment 
  in Staten ISland, East Rockaway or Westchester. Those places 
  are socially dead.

True, but the error is more of a mis-choice of words ('San Francisco' instead of 'Bay Area') rather than ideas, since If we're only considering San Francisco, the tech dominance starts to fade a little bit.

Also, while we're calling people for misspeaking, Staten Island is New York City.

Also, while we're calling people for misspeaking, Staten Island is New York City.

True, but Staten Island feels like New Jersey -- even, I suspect, to most New Yorkers. I have a friend from Staten Island, and when I talk about going back to New Jersey, it drives her crazy.

I can't imagine people from New Jersey minding being mistaken for New Yorkers...

I agree with the (title of the) post very much, but one major point I would like to make is: Mountain View != San Francisco! I find it very misleading when people talk about San Francisco (usually in a negative light) and what they are really talking about are the suburbs of SF. Please stop doing that. That would be like saying NYC is boring because you are actually talking about Yonkers.

Yeah, but 80% of the tech employment is down there. So you either have a horrific commute or get to live in the suburbs.

That alone seals it for me, I'm staying in NYC. Although maybe I'd get more work done if my immediate environment bored me to tears.

Well it is possible to work for a tech company and stay in SF. You just need to work with a more restrictive set of job requirements. I got tired of doing the long commute in 2003 and decided to only look at companies within the city limits. It took a year to find something I really liked, but it was life-changing to be able to work and live in the same place and avoid the 50-mile one-way commute.

And, of course, you can start and operate your company out of SF (which is what I eventually did as well).

I've lived in a number of cities and surprisingly the Internet looks the same in all of them.

I agree.

The internet is the same here in Helena, MT as it is in any other city or town on the planet. Sure, the connection speeds leave a bit to be desired and there's little startup community. But there are exceedingly few places that have a quality of life to match it, especially if you are into trail running and mountain biking.

Maybe it'll be a bit harder to startup here. Maybe I'll end up moving if I create a startup with legs, or after I completely trash my body running ultras.

I've made my choice. I hope everyone else does too.

You should also post this on Reddit to maximize the upvote potential of this one witty statement.

Well said. The point that Wall Street != New York is particularly important here, w.r.t Antonio's post. I've only been here a year, but I know New York is big, and it is not homogeneous. I don't think Antonio ever realized that.

Also, kudos to blip.tv. I had a chance to meet a few of the blip kids a few months ago and you guys were really cool.

It isn't but at the same time, Mountain View != San Francisco any more than Secaucus, NJ == New York. The whole thing boils down to a couple of guys who don't know what they're talking about blogging past each other. Which is their inalienable right, just not very interesting.

Seconded. I rarely interact with those types, and I work for a major consulting company in the city. There are multiple ways to avoid that crowd, starting with staying out of Murray Hill.

The thing I love about New York is the inherent challenge. You're among some of the most competitive people in the world who love nothing more than to squash your idea. And if you manage to convince those people or rise from their negativity, you know you're onto something.

I view it in many ways as its own little market economy with (close to) perfect competition among commodities. If something facing fierce competition (like restaurants, for example) can hold its own, you know there's some quality behind it.

> The thing I love about New York is the inherent challenge. You're among some of the most competitive people in the world who love nothing more than to squash your idea. And if you manage to convince those people or rise from their negativity, you know you're onto something.

So you're saying that if you have the ability to make it there, the probability of making it in other locations is high?

I always have trouble wording it in a way that doesn't convey that logic.. I just mean there's much more resistance to go through to vet your idea, for better or for worse. The NY tech community has a lot of the same personality as the HN community - just because you are a part of it doesn't make you less likely to succeed without it but it's great at providing guidance and critique.

I hope that clarifies, I still haven't found a great way to articulate it appropriately.

http://www.lyricsfreak.com/f/frank+sinatra/new+york+new+york...

Take a look at the 5th stanza. Then look at the comment you're replying to.

i live in murray hill and love it. Close to grand central, union sq, madison sq park, great selection of restaurants (not trying to compare to downtown or even some ues areas), and it doesnt hurt that I work 4 blocks away from my apt.

Plenty of cheesy bars that are sure to bring in the 'i just graduated and trying to break into PR' crowds of girls.

Whats not to love?

I have even heard that Manhattan != New York, although my relatives on the Upper West Side treat Brooklyn as a distant and inaccessible planet.

I like this rebuttal, a lot. I will say, having lived in California, Nevada, New Mexico, and Kentucky (not in that order) has made me realize this: culture counts for a lot, the internet is prolific, and calling any large American city a "technological backwater" is a farce.

A lot of people = a diversity of ideas = culture = innovation. New York has a lot of people and a lot of culture, quite a bit of innovation has come out of that city; California (as a whole, not just the Valley, I live in SD right now) has a lot of people and a lot of culture. The same can be said for Atlanta, Dallas, etc...

I will note this difference, though: much of California's culture embraces the leading edge more than it's east coast counterparts - computers and the internet is the leading edge; the internet is an agent of social reform and change, technology (computers) is the vessel through which widespread social reticulation is delivered. Therefore, I do not think New York is a technological backwater; but I do think the people in California/Portland/Seattle can be more progressive and this is why the west coast is carrying the torch.

Small disclaimer: I've been to New York but I haven't lived there, my conclusion is derived much more from intuition than actual experience.

> Given the lifestyle in the City, products are much closer to the pavement and are a solution to a real-world problem from Day 1. Not some social network plaything.

Humorous considering it's hosted by Tumblr, a social plaything based out of NYC. Foursquare is another that comes into mind as a questionably "real-world problem" solver social network plaything that came out of NYC.

Real-world problems? I get that a lot of software is just toys, but isn't NYC the home of economy-jamming fictional assets which only exist so a permanent overclass of full time traders have something to make more side bets on?

Palo Alto is not in San Francisco. Look at a map. Comparing New York City to Palo Alto is like comparing San Francisco to Burlingame.

Another common gripe about California that I'll echo here: there's no weather! It may sound masochistic but I miss the seasons, the snow, wearing a scarf, sheltering inside with a cold nose and hands with something warm. The passing of the seasons gives life a constant pulse and direction. The eternal summers of CA get to be disorienting after a while.

I find the ability to drive and experience seasons, like going to Tahoe during winter, is far more agreeable than being forced into them.

I spent 20 years in Chicago with its freezing winters and hot and humid summers and San Francisco's mild climate is a dream.

Hear hear.

I do suspect no seasons makes some of the LA natives a bit wacky. It's good character building to deal with shitty weather for a while.

But CA has all the advantages here. The day-to-day weather is consistent and mild, and there is easy access to whatever nature you desire for a change. Mountains for skiing, the ocean for swimming, surfing or boating, forests and deserts for hiking.

I was stuck in Michigan weather for 20 years too. Literally stuck in the winter. Having options is much nicer than not having options.

> no seasons makes some of the LA natives a bit wacky

By the count entire countries in the tropics should be wacky :P

Well, to each his own. I'm from Oakland, CA and I am fine with Chicago weather. It can get uncomfortable, but I'll take that as a trade-off for my near-downtown apartment in one of America's greatest cities at half the cost of a comparable place in NY or SF. The summers are actually better--Oakland will get these horrible 90-100 degree heat waves--and the problem of winter is easily solved by adding more layers.

Just wait until you become accustomed to people using the phrases "lake-effect snow" and "humidity index". As a midwesterner for the first half of my life and Chicago native for a decent chunk of that I can say with certainty that Oakland weather beats Chicago weather in just about every possible way. The only thing I actually miss is fall; there is something really pleasant about a Midwestern fall (I suspect it's even nicer in the northeast) with the leaves changing color and falling, the first few brisk days when the scent of burning leaves and fireplaces drifts through the early evening, etc.

I've been living in Chicago for 6 years now. I've been through 6 Chicago winters and 6 Chicago summers.

You don't really get lake-effect snow in the city. That's more of a problem for the suburbs. As for humidity; it's not an issue as long as you wear the proper clothes. (Summer clothes need to be breathable. In particular, jeans and a T-shirt will not keep you cool.)

California is an absolutely humongous state and it most certainly experiences all of the seasons. San Francisco and the surrounding areas are a moderate climate, southern CA is certainly warm most of the year. Northern CA and Eastern CA experience all four seasons and the central valley is a bit of a mix depending on how far north you are. Lake Tahoe for example is a just a three hour drive (roughly) from the Bay area and will go from 80-90 degree days in the summer to 0 degree days with six feet of snow on the ground in the winter with typical spring and fall weather also.

California has seasons! There's Fog Season, Tomato Season, Banana Slug Season, Dry Season...

Kidding aside, I really miss East Coast seasons, too. Sure I can go to Tahoe if I want snow, but there's nothing like being bundled up and walking around NYC at night after a light dusting of snow... before it turns to gross brown slush.

  San Francisco is fine
  You sure get lots of sun
  But I'm used to four seasons
  California's got but one

http://www.allthelyrics.com/lyrics/bob_dylan/california-lyri...

Which shows how little time he actually spent in SF, of course. Mark Twain's famous line about the coldest winter he ever spent being a summer in San Francisco is a lot closer to the truth. Unfortunately, Twain never actually said that. The internet, destroyer of illusions. :(

With respect to Bob Dylan, the meteorological charm of the Bay Area (and SF in particular) is not in its seasons, but in the often dramatic changes between its microclimates. It's a much different phenomenon than the broad, homogenous and slowly cycling climate of the East Coast.

You can wear a scarf all summer long in San Francisco.

I would have said this was a joke, except that I actually saw someone on Market wearing a scarf this afternoon.

That may be true of LA, but the Bay Area has seasons - two of them. Summer and Rainy.

Only if you live in Daly City.

When it's really hot in NYC, it's really bad. This summer has had lots of >90f humid days and there are still many more hot days to go until Autumn. Except for the hot NYC summers, I do enjoy the seasons.

The title is talking about SF. There are seasons within neighborhoods of SF proper.

Nothing like an inflammatory rebuttal to an inflammatory essay.

"The social component of a real city with museums, clubs, venues, pubs, bars and barcades is important."

SF has all of these. Obviously less by virtue of being in a metro area a third the size of NYC, but you aren't going to get bored.

"Am I paying for a car? No."

Many San Franciscans don't drive. That being said, having a car always has its benefits - and a car in NYC (at least in Manhattan) is even tougher than in SF.

"In short, New York City is more interesting and—I believe—better suited for the startup and a young guy’s lifestyle"

Well, we all have different lifestyles. I enjoy yearlong mountain biking that's only minutes away. I enjoy awesome snowboarding only 3 hours away. I enjoy climbing 14,000 foot mountains. I enjoy not sweating in humid, hot summers and freezing in snowy, cold winters.

I've spent about a month of my life in NYC (over various trips) and would hands down take SF over it.

This rebuttal is hilarious.

Kelly's TL:DR summary at the end should have been:

• NYC is more fun! And interesting! I'm 23. • I work at a big company, but startups have happened here at least once. • What do I know? I'm only 23.

The original article was articulate if a bit bombastic. The most salient points, which Kelly failed to address, were in my mind:

• The Bay Area has a culture and history of tech innovation • The Bay Area has thousands of VCs and venture money • The Bay Area has top engineering schools • The Bay Area has tons (metric!) more startups, entrepreneurs, hackers, coders, etc.

The most telling sentence in Kelly's post is: "The social component of a real city with museums, clubs, venues, pubs, bars and barcades is important."

A "real city"! Wow. By Kelly's estimation there must be at most only 2 or 3 real cities on the entire planet.

The title says "San Francisco" but the article only mentions "Mountain View, Cupertino or Palo Alto" ... ???

What kind of comparison is this?

It shows us that the poster didn't understand where he lived. That's OK; there are enough of us here, don't you think?

Every once in awhile, you see a Google emerge from the Valley. But for every Google emerging from the Valley, there are ten thousand equally ambitious startups that fail. Some of them fail catastrophically... Given the lifestyle in the City, products are much closer to the pavement and are a solution to a real-world problem from Day 1. Not some social network plaything.

This is the main reason NY will never usurp Silicon Valley. Tech-wise NY's culture is too conventional.

"Why build Z when X is good enough?"

"This idea is stupid."

"What's the point? It doesn't make any money."

Title really should be "Choosing New York over Silicon Valley" - the city of San Francisco is night and day different from bedroom communities like Palo Alto, Mountain View, etc.

If you are trying to do a life style start up, New York is probably a good place. (i don't have anything against life style business). Most of the examples you gave,including the startup you work for are life style business. So sure they would be more practical and making money from day 1. But you're trying to do anything more ambitious, silicon vally is still the place to go.

"Given the lifestyle in the City, products are much closer to the pavement and are a solution to a real-world problem from Day 1."

This makes no sense. How does NYC's "lifestyle" create products that are any closer to "the pavement" than SF's does? Maybe Kelly should illustrate his point by choosing some NYC companies and comparing their products with SF products, or the products of startups from anywhere else for that matter?

Is san francisco ruby or python?

I don't know, but Boston is C++. Its mixture of hacker culture, hyper-IQ academia, and classical puritan social values is sort of like implementing closures with template metaprogramming and special #ifdefs everywhere for compiler backward compatibility.

It's puritan social values plus academic liberalism plus nerds. It is backward compatible but not strictly a superset.

Comparing cities to programming languages thread GO!

Do you think Boston is the best city for nerds? I'm looking for a genuinely pro-intellectual climate.

It's pro-intellectual, but it's also a bit stuffy and introverted.

If you like the quiet life, lots of academic options, and very tame social gatherings then Boston is for you. If you like excitement, extraverted social culture, and lots of new experiences then I'd look at SF.

Boston has some plusses: it's a walking city... possibly the only true walking city in the country (of any size). You do not need a car. It's ridiculously safe for a big urban area. Bostonians' idea of a bad neighborhood is one without a Starbucks in eye-shot. It's very economically healthy and has a lot of good high paying techie jobs.

But some of that could be said about SF too... just not the walking city part. (Well, SF proper can be handled without a car, but all the techie stuff is in the valley which is a car-centric suburb.)

Both are among the nicest cities in the country.

I moved from SF to Boston about six months ago.

SF is a great place to build a startup, but a lousy place to live. I never felt like I could really be myself there (despite meeting hundreds of supposedly like-minded people).

Bostonians are far less friendly on the surface, but man, you can really get to know them. People are nerdy, intellectual, informed (and not just about tech), opinionated, and largely quite sane.

The pace of the city is slower, too, in a way that I appreciate. When I go to a tech event here, I'll often meet someone and spend an hour locked in conversation with them. That kind of deep, engaged conversation never happened in SF, where people are perpetually on the go, and cutting from one thing to the next.

Outside of work, Boston (and by this I specifically mean Cambridge and Somerville -- or "Camberville" as we call it) is the best place in the country to be a nerd. The place is filled with swing dancers, LARPers, grad students, cult movie screenings, comic book and game shops, and quite possibly more CTY alumni than any other city.

Simultaneously, we've got a lot of general culture, too -- lectures, theater, good food, and so on.

Stuffy and introverted? Sure, a bit. But you can get past that quickly, and discover a wonderful place to live.

python :)

Darn...then i have to move to ny. ;)

Why the * does this matter? Start sh* anywhere.

What about Boston in this whole discussion?

We're too busy coding and working on our startups to comment. ;)

"My city is better than yours!"

"No, it isn't!"

It's weird how opinions work, isn't it? I don't like either place - where does that leave me?

Hopefully it leaves you in the city you live in, content with your life and work and surroundings, just like the rest of us.

What about vendors for Wall Street? Anyone know where I could find vendors to Wall Street that are still essentially tech companies? I figure that market is huge in New York and might be a good alternative to the tradition IT in an IB job.

Having lived both places SF feels like the place where new ideas meet with the least resistance. In New York I'm more inclined to want to go out and ogle girls in summer dresses, but NY is a very inspiring place to live, no doubt.

+1 from a guy that did 2 startups in NYC over 3 years as well. My sentiments exactly.

They are different environments with pros and cons, but I preferred the social scene in NYC to SF by far.

>along with Seattle, Los Angeles, Düsseldorf and Berlin So how is Düsseldorf, Berlin compared to NYC and SF? Would you have moved to Berlin if blib.tv was there?

If you want an affordable, quality place full of capable, motivated people, not to mention the headquarters of the Kauffman Foundation... Kansas City is the place.

I second this, KC is a great city for startups and very affordable. Lots of motivated people at Startup Weekend and other events... many Ruby and PHP devs, not enough design talent. UMKC is pushing entrepreneurship through their E&I institute and student venture incubators.

Palo Alto is "socially dead"?

Compared to New York, it’s boring. I have trouble even thinking about living in an apartment in Mountain View, Cupertino or Palo Alto. Those places are socially dead.

This post suffers from the presumption that everyone wants the same thing from a city. So SF (really, the Bay Area) was not for you. It's for a lot of us.

Not all of us want to suffer awful winters and unbearable summers. Some of us love natural beauty -- and not just the girls. And many of us like a different kind of social scene than NYC offers.

Sure, NYC is exciting. I've been there, and not as a tourist. But it's not for me. (Then again, I'm not 20.) SF (proper, not the Bay Area in general) is the birthplace of cafe society. Mountain biking was born on Mt. Tam. This is a unique, beautiful place, and a lot of people can't figure it out -- and so they move. That's fine: we're already the largest state in the union. We don't need any more people, thank you.

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