An alternative to burial and cremation gains popularity
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When she reached 90 my great grandma prepaid for all her funeral services and had everything all set, including the dress she wanted to be buried in. Nobody had to worry about a thing. Of course, you risk some places going out of business, so this should be done only if your life expectancy is around, say, 5 years or so.
Here in The Netherlands you can insure yourself for a lot of things. Life insurance is one of the insurances to consider; it is generally good idea. If you start with it from your youth you pay less per year than if you start paying on from say your mid 30s.
Its also interesting how the elder go to retirement homes here, while in the USA it is normal to have your (grand)parents live with you if they're old age. Basically unheard of here in NL.
Cost is only one factor. The bigger thing is taking the need to make a bunch of decisions (and fight over a bunch of decisions) away.
> while in the USA it is normal to have your (grand)parents live with you if they're old age
This is really not that common here. Retirement homes and nursing homes are huge industries in the US.
Having elderly parents live with you in the US is probably more common among low income people, because nursing and retirement homes are both quite expensive.
My grandfather is getting older, has plenty of money, and we've visited a decent amount of retirement homes. It's seriously depressing to even consider he might have to live there.
The bigger issue is being free of making very important decisions during a time of grief.
A problem is the death industry can use your grief to upsell you and overcharge you, sometimes even breaking the law.
http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/story?id=125628&page=1
It's also not particularly normal to live with your parents when they are elderly in the US. It happens, but it's not really all that common.
I wrote a full description of what I have and where, with access details. I shared this with a friend I trust (he was cool and called me 6 months later to tell me that he cannot access my bank account anymore :) - I changed the password and forgot to update the document). Others were wondering if I was depressed or something, such preparation was weird in their eyes.
I went to a funeral company, met a distinguished guy ready for his role of grieving with me over the loss of someone, and was completely taken off guard when I wanted to discuss the details of my funeral in 40 years or so. There was no way to prepare this with him and I doubt it is possible with any other company.
I wonder what the most ecologically useful way of disposing of a body is.
> Instead of burying the corpse, Zoroastrians traditionally laid it out on a purpose built tower (dokhma or 'Tower of Silence') to be exposed to the sun and eaten by birds of prey such as vultures.
[1] http://www.bbc.co.uk/religion/religions/zoroastrian/ritesrit...
EDIT: there's another comment down thread saying the same.
https://www.theguardian.com/cities/2015/jan/26/death-city-la...
I don't want to be buried, burned, or donated. I'd prefer something like dipping into molten steel (or lava) like in Terminator 2, for everyone's safety.
If fungi can mitigate, neutralize all the bad stuff in my body, I'd be okay with that.
I recommend reading this article in it's entirety:
http://discovermagazine.com/2013/julyaug/13-mushrooms-clean-...
https://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/a-burial-machine-that-...
http://forensicoutreach.com/library/5-places-to-leave-a-body...
http://www.us-funerals.com/funeral-articles/directory-of-gre...
There seems to be a lot of TED talkers focusing on this question:
https://www.ted.com/talks/jae_rhim_lee
https://www.ted.com/talks/katrina_spade_when_i_die_recompose...
https://www.ted.com/talks/caitlin_doughty_a_burial_practice_...
A girlfriend in medical school said she wish she had a cadaver like my body for anatomy class. She said that she and nearly everyone in the class had to cut through inches of fat to get to the organs, also covered in fat. Such bodies may represent today's population better, but she said you could learn better without it.
Such a compliment
Better gain 100lbs if you think the relationship is going south.
https://www.mayoclinic.org/body-donation/biocremation-resoma...
https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2016/05/15/nyregion/new-...
Pre-med have all the best pickup lines.
"The bodies are not placed on the ground because their presence would corrupt the earth. For the same reason, Zoroastrians do not cremate their dead, as it would corrupt the fire.
The dakhma is a wide tower with a platform open to the sky. Corpses are left on the platform to be picked clean by vultures, a process which only takes a few hours. This allows a body to be consumed before dangerous corruption sets in."
http://www.avesta.org/ritual/funeral.htm
http://www.bbc.co.uk/religion/religions/zoroastrian/ritesrit...
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diclofenac#Ecological_effects
In the past, the vultures would have picked the bones clean. Now there's just not enough vultures- hence the image you describe.
The issue with human remains is really disease transmission, and while not perfect they do work fairly well.
Beyond the symbolic aspects, it's practical in regions where there's very little wood for cremation, and the ground may be too hard for actual burial.
Don't tell Soylent about this.
Joke aside, if it went into being fertilizer which then feeds plants which we eat... The plants are just playing the role of the processing mechanism for recycling those chemicals...
That way I can pre-program a bunch of activities for myself after death and finally catch up on all the stuff I meant to do but never got around to.
[1] James Ironside on prions https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nlIYGYA5q0s
Prions are not part of the disease. They would stain, and be visible on microscopy. They are exactly the (type of) substance that has been stained for, and are more than large enough to show up on the various types of microscopy regularly performed on these tissue samples.
I’m trying to find a more explicit way of saying: these are easy to eee in exactly the ways that we examine these brains, so no, it’s not a prion disease.
The major risk factor in Alzheimer's is susceptibility to oxidative damage in the brain.
Also, prions are a concern without fringe conspiracy theories.
I'd prefer a sky burial but that's difficult, or so I am told.
That was the great George Carlin:
He is buried in a cemetery, according to Google. I wonder why? He seems to have been rather principled and I'd have not expected him to do so.
The other thing is that some really good thoughts come from comedians. Beneath the humor, there is frequently some good thoughts, intellectual thoughts. I wonder why this is? Psych is, obviously, not my domain. I don't really understand why we do many of the things we do, but I will avoid too much digression.
That makes more sense, as Carlin seemed (if nothing else) principled.
If the market prefers isolated burial, then there's a market for space-consuming cemeteries. This probably costs a lot in government regulations, so cemeteries have to be big enough to absorb the initial costs.
Cemeteries are kind of a dumb idea and part of a backwards industry, driven by some silly need to bury people in quaint suburbs of death.
That sentiment is my bias showing, but it's kind of a no brainer: cemeteries are superfluous and are basically societal debt at this point. Let's hope we can count on people to move towards more economically friendly means of disposable:
1. Dump your dead friend in the woods. 2. Dump your dead friend in the ocean. 3. Dump your dead friend's ashes somewhere.
These are all better options than hogging some space, digging a hole, dumping your dead friend into the hole, then telling everyone that this land forever belongs to someone who can no longer use it.
They're a neat mix of history, nature, and art. They're often isolated, beautiful, and quiet. Important people get monuments in public squares; all but the most poor throughout US history get a small plot and a little headstone. It's fun to think about people who otherwise have been completely forgotten: the eras they lived in, the family members they're buried with, the countries where they came from, their accomplishments in life, and sometimes the sacrifices they made for me. They're no dumber than any other monument you see to anyone anywhere else, except these are the monuments for the 99%, figuratively speaking.
Visiting a cemetery also reminds me that I'm mortal and one day my fate will be the same.
There's an extremely fair case to be made against cemeteries from environmental and/or space concerns, and you can accomplish a lot of the above goals in other ways. However, the dismissal of a very human desire to remember and/or be remembered deserved a response.
Are physical monuments getting more or less popular? I mean, my whole history and life is basically on Facebook, which acts as a more thorough monument than any limited gravestone ever could. Remembering people through electronics seems like a complete eco-friendly replacement for altars and other space consuming habits.
Don't people know what happens to the body's blood during embalming? Goes down the drain.
I've already told my family that this is my preferred burial method.
I’d like to be flung out of a mass driver towards interstellar space, naked, in the “starfish position.”
Starfish position for the uninformed is arms out, legs out. You know, the position you take when you drop onto your bed exhausted at the end of a long day.
Except my final bed would be emptiness, forever cartwheeling into the abyss...
Until I hit an asteroid or something.
I would also accept being launched out of a trebuchet.
I won’t budge on the cartwheeling starfish. In case I pass by intelligent life in a few billion years I definelty want them to have a WTF moment.
Is it anachronistic? Yes. Am I a badass Scandanavian warrior? Not even a little. Do I actually worship Thor? Only on census forms. But it makes me laugh about my death so I'll keep telling people that's what I want.
In my actual will, I'm an organ donor and donate anything left over to science, but no one needs to know that just yet.
The only thing to get past is the way the idea reminds me of an episode of Breaking Bad.
>The environmental benefits of alkaline hydrolysis are significant. Its carbon footprint is about a tenth of that caused by burning bodies. Mr. Wilson said liquefaction uses a fraction of the energy of a standard cremator and releases no fumes.... the [effluent] is sterile and contains nutrients, so much so that it can be and is used as a fertilizer. Rick Vonderwell, who manages Tails Remembered, a pet crematory in Delphos, Ohio, uses the effluent at his farm, as do several large universities.
("Effluent? That's Grandma!")
Only beaten by: A/space burial to the sun or frozen in the middle of total vacuum B/cryo C/science.
Btw, it's the mobile version of the page. Here is the full one: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/10/19/business/flameless-cremat...
I'm not a pet, but would love to be used as fertilizer.
My plan is to be cremated and to have my ashes scattered on Beach 11 at Presque Isle State Park at the opening of the tournament following my death.
Bonus points if they can get some custom 175g frisbee made with my ashes mixed in the plastic, as they did with Ed Hedrick.
I heard it was a B-17, but Wikipedia says that.
https://www.ted.com/talks/jae_rhim_lee
Does cost a lot though, $1500 http://coeio.com/
This is oddly specific, it feels like a dare.
To the spirits of the departed, here is the grave of Publius Maximus, served in the Legions, who drank heartily every day of his life. Passersby, consider a moment this grave, but go on before too long, lest you shit here. This monument was put up by his dear brother Julius Maximus and measures ten feet at the front and twenty into the field.
They are literally all like that.
[0] https://www.amazon.com/Death-Ancient-Rome-Sourcebook-Sourceb...
http://thisiscriminal.com/episode-68-all-the-time-in-the-wor...
Does this exist?
—Chairman Sheng-ji Yang, “Ethics for Tomorrow”
That is that there's no way (as far as I can tell) for natural selection to "improve" how we die. My guess is death is the most diverse experience amongst all living things.
EDIT: Even without factoring in the idea that there are so many experiences that cause death.
https://www.ted.com/talks/katrina_spade_when_i_die_recompose...
How does that make sense? They're dead. The way you treat their body has no effect on them.
But how is chemical liquification more gentle?
For this reason, it's good to examine what sorts of funerary practices one finds aesthetically pleasing or off-putting, and to see if there are any trends. For example, I personally am less enamored of pure utilitarian/altruistic methods like donating one's body to science, or where you get your remains put into a package to grow a tree. Can't deny the usefulness and rationality of such things, of course. But the thought process of that I can't shake is "Well, at least I'll be of some use when I'm dead" or "I don't want to be a bother."
My thought is that there's something good in the notion, not just of the dead not being forgotten, but of having the dead impart some sort of cost or burden on the living. I actually love the idea of pyramids and ancient mausoleums, and the idea of people having been buried with personal or costly items -- not because I myself am interested in having a lavish tomb or "thinking I can take it with me," but because I think there's something primal in us that wants to find some way of making the sense of loss more concrete and material. (At the same time, that can be driven to excess in our modern funeral-director economic system, which itself tries to piggyback on that desire to throw wealth at the dead by instead throwing wealth at the living.) When it comes to burial, I've always liked large standing headstones far more than just flat markers, partially for historical/design purposes, but also just because I'm not a fan of making such gravestones less prominent just to make the job of a lawn-mower easier. I can't help but want graves to be obnoxious obstacles enough that someone has to deal with them individually.
When it comes to cremation or the article's "liquifaction," I find it curious that either method sits well with me except for the last step of cremulation. It's not something that we generally think about, but when you cremate a body, the fires aren't enough to get the job done -- you end up with many fragments of fragile bone rather than some uniform powder. At that point, the fragments go into a cremulator, which is essentially an industrial blender, to be pulverized into powder. Maybe I'm just a romantic for older methods, but the more modern industrial "grind grandma's bones in a blender" approach strikes me as much more violent than immolating a corpse. I'd much rather cremation was practiced as in Japan ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Japanese_funeral#Cremation ) where the fragments themselves are hand-picked out of the ashes (or rather chopstick-picked) by relatives to be placed in the urn. I'd also be a fan of bringing back the practice of ossuaries to balance the desire for burial with the limitations of physical space.
Of course, this is all 'irrational' or 'illogical', but it's good to think about what we actually favor when it comes to funerary practices, and what it says about ourselves. I think that aesthetics, our sense of beauty/ugliness in this situation, is connected with our worldview, our personal history, and our morals/ethics in interesting ways. Looking through the thousands of years of human civilization and seeing how various people dealt with the trauma of death and loss is enlightening.
Sure, as long as "the cost or burden on the living" is merely that of remembering our debt to the dead for their contributions to our present-day lives. (Cf. President Obama's "You didn't build that" remark during the 2012 campaign [0], which triggered outrage by opponents who quoted it out of context.)
Yuck!