Your belief is equivalent to a “hidden variable” theory, that the coins have some property stored in them that ensures the outcome is predetermined.
Unfortunately, while that theory is very intuitive, it’s also been conclusively proven wrong through statistical methods.
Instead of a 50:50 chance of landing between two states, it’s actually closer to throwing three pairs of entangled coins at your friend and into the air, but both of you only having the dexterity to catch one. Any remaining coins scatter on the ground and in doing so lose their entanglement. For the sake of identification, let’s say all three pairs of entangled coins are different colors. You choose to both catch coins of the same color, and you see that they show opposite sides 100% of the time. Great! The analogy still holds.
Here’s the problem. Now you start just catching a random coin from each set of three and collecting the results. You do this many times. Let’s assume there’s a hidden variable. In each set of coin throws, there are eight possible predetermined outcomes. Two of these outcomes are that one of you catches a coin from a set predetermined to be TTT while the other catches a coin predetermined to be one of HHH. The other six outcomes are equivalent to one of you catching from a set of TTH and the other catching one of HHT. There are no other possible sets of hidden outcomes.
In the first two instances, you are 100% guaranteed to get a matching Heads/Tails pair by catching coins at random. In the remaining six, the two of you will record a matching pair 5/9 of the time (2/3 of the time you have 2/3 chance of a match, 1/3 of the time you have 1/3 chance of a match).
This means that well over 50% of the time you will catch matching pairs of coins. This is an inescapable consequence of any hidden variable theory. However, in practice, it turns out you have matching pairs exactly 50% of the time. There’s no getting around this. You perform the experiment hundreds of thousands of times, and your long term average is 50%. Given the above probabilities, there is no possible way for there to be a hidden variable predetermining the outcome. As far as we can tell, the only thing that explains the 50% rate of matching HT pairs is that at the moment a coin is caught and observed, they both spontaneously choose opposite sides to display.