Base comp 200K
Bonus, stock, 401k match 50K
Total gross comp 250K
Expenses:
Taxes 40% (30% fed, 10% state) 100K
Rental housing 40K ($3300/month)
Food 15K
Transportation 15K
Discretionary spending 20K
Total expenses 190K
As a result, you can comfortably save $60K per year. Of course, kids and housing options will add greatly to your spend.
1: https://www.glassdoor.com/Salaries/san-francisco-software-en...
2: https://www.payscale.com/research/US/Job=Senior_Software_Eng...
Of course it's a terrible commute, but some people prefer that - it should also be noted that the comment you responded to was talking about the Valley, not SF. Software engineering jobs in SF proper is a raw deal IMO excepting that you get to live in SF & be closer to the offerings of SF (or you can commute into SF, but might as well be commuting to an area with better pay IMO). Engineering quality is probably roughly the same across the Bay Area though.
The average startups are not paying engineers anywhere close to 250k.
But I can assure you that every one of the big 5 tech companies pays those numbers (as do the "hot" unicorns that are on a similar "tier" as Google, ect) .
The moral of the story is, don't work for a startup. Go big or go home. Sell out and work for one of the companies with the actual money.
Because at those companies, those numbers are real.
And the thing that people need to realize is that those "top" companies have a whole lot of people working for them. The numbers don't back up the common argument that is made about how "you have to be in the very top 1 percent of engineers to work at Google, FB, or Amazon".
At any rate, if those bonuses are real, maybe I need to move out of Texas.
I haven't been at my BigCo long enough to say how much a bonus is like, but I do have max 401k match at 3% of my salary (rises up to 6% given time), which alone turns out to be ~$5k. Employee stock purchasing program with 15% discount with 10% of my salary maxed out also turns out to be ~$25k in stock (savings of ~$4k) - this does not include whatever benefits might come out of refresh stock grants, or performance bonuses. $50k in extra benefits does sound quite attainable though, even for an engineer not on $200k base at a BigCo.
YMMV of course.
Those sound like marginal rates, not actual taxes paid.
I've personally been saving over $2k/mo on an after-tax income of just over $6k/mo, haven't been trying particularly hard to max that out though.
Under-appreciated fact about SF: your kid's schooling choices are either winning the school assignment lottery, having a 50 minute commute, homeschooling, or moving to a city that actually handles things sanely and has lower housing costs to boot.
If instead you choose to send your kids to a public school that provides good educational opportunities, factor in either several thousand in additional local property taxes [1] or similar amounts in donations to the school PTA [2].
[1] http://www.paloaltopulse.com/2014/10/16/palo-alto-pulse-asks...
[2] http://capta.org/pta-leaders/run-your-pta/finance/fundraisin...
quality child care or private school is +$2k/month/child
+2bdrm housing $4k
food/transport/other $2k
for couple with one kid you're at $8k/month post-tax or $150k/year pre-tax to break even.