What exactly is a "sexist game" ??
Is it one where female characters are portrayed sexually? Because the "reverse" exists: http://store.steampowered.com/app/654880/Dream_Daddy_A_Dad_D...
And considering how many female players kinda like games like Final Fantasy X (where Tidus was a somewhat cute male main character), or Zelda (Link is also cute), I think that "bringing sexy boys" into games would make the overall game industry better in general.
In essence: there's nothing wrong with "the male gaze", as long as there's an equivalent amount of "female gaze" going on. We're not at that point yet, but there's definitely more and more games being developed with a "sexy boy" with the female player in mind.
Much as Laura Croft is primarily played by male players who find her sexy. Or a more modern example would probably be Nier: Automata's 2B. Its a game more or less designed for the male audience with a sexy female lead. As long as there's enough studs like Nathan Drake (Uncharted) for female players to also gaze upon, I don't think there's anything wrong with sexy.
For a "mainstream" example... the Bikini Armor of "Xena: Warrior Princess" is contrasted against the perfect abs and pecs of "Hercules: The Legendary Journeys" and "Beastmaster". As long as things are fair for both genders to enjoy, I don't think its a bad thing.
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Similarly, "Damsel in Distress" isn't innately a sexist trope if there are enough "Dudesels in Distress" to compensate. That "Super Princess Peach" video game where Bowser steals Mario and then Princess Peach rescues Mario is a good example of this inversion.
I agree that most "people in rescue" today still are female, so its a female trope in general. But there's really no reason it has to be locked to the female role.
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Its hard for me to fully understand what's wrong and whats right, especially when I start talking to female gamers and learn which games they play. I mean hell, I've met female gamers who actually play the crap out of "obviously sexist" games like Senran Kagura.
So what is and isn't "sexist" is a very confusing subject to me. Mostly because even feminists don't agree on what is and isn't "sexist".
First Generation Feminists would argue that "sexy" representations of women is sexist for example. But a 3rd Wave Feminist would argue that sex-negativity is sexist, and that positive portrayal of sex is better for the feminist cause.
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I think Nintendo managed to hit a good spot with their new female characters this generation. The Squid-Boy and Squid-girls have universally been accepted as positive character portrayals.
Pokemon's "Male" protagonist and "Female" protagonists is quite inclusive, even if its quite simple. And while the male "Red" is undoubtedly the strongest NPC of the in-game universe, strong female characters like "Cynthia" are remembered by the fanbase.
And finally, the "ARMs" characters have some degree of sexiness built in but nothing as outrageous as say, DoA. And as far as I can tell, "ARMs" is getting a positive reception overall.
But maybe these games are just too new, so there isn't much analysis on them yet.