The best approach without boilerplate would be to generate this at compile time, not runtime. You could use an approach like in http://hannesdorfmann.com/annotation-processing/annotationpr... to create at compile-time, using reflection, a ChildWalker class that accesses the relevant properties for every class annotated with @Node. At runtime, the JIT should get this down to a vtable lookup and field lookups - just about as optimized as you can get.
EDIT: Always remember https://xkcd.com/1205/ - if it would take 5 seconds to write each children() method, and you write no more than 5 Node classes per day (amortized), then you shouldn't spend more 12 hours writing the code for this blog post ;) Unless, of course, that was the point all along!