At liberal tech companies, those who disagree on politics say they’re isolated
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At one workplace I saw two coworkers get into a fist fight because the liberal was "offended" that the conservative differed on a viewpoint.
Go to Texas and I'm sure you can find the opposite if you are looking for it. It's just a shame that we're letting society create the lens that we want to see, and we push things out that don't fit into our comfy bubble blanket.
Edit: To clarify what people got angry at me most: I told them I voted for Bush. It was simply that statement, nothing more.
I didn't vote for Trump, but I know many, many good people that did. I made the mistake of mentioning that once and somehow that turned me into a pro-Trump spokesperson. I can do that for the sake of a rational conversation, but I somehow ended up being the Trump supporter spokesperson despite the fact that I can't stand the guy.
I think the current level of political discourse is downright dangerous.
I hear this. It's frightening how some people can rationalize taking extremely punitive actions in response to encountering mere disagreement or differing identity.
Everyone needs to remember that the people they disagree with are people too, and treat them as they'd like themselves to be treated.
> I think the current level of political discourse is downright dangerous.
I would call it polarization. The discourse is just a consequence of that.
As a liberal atheist who has spent most of his life in the deep red parts of the south, I can assure you that you're wrong.
I find it terrible that when you're only given two options, and both of them suck, choosing one over the other can be seen as such a treason. To me these conversations sound like "You prefer diarrhea to vomiting! I'm never going to sit on your couch again!"
> Because it's hard to unanimously and unequivocally identify those who are intolerant as such. Owing to the beguiling nature of language and rhetoric, the intolerant can thrive and propagate by arguing that they're not in fact intolerant, and appealing to "free speech". This seems to be the MO of this so-called "alt-right" stuff; legal or constitutional barriers are almost impossible to define or enforce.
That is creepy to me. You have the ingredients of a witch hunt.
"can't easily distinguish them" aka "anyone could be a witch", "can't use legal methods to attack or 'regulate' them" aka "something... must be done", that's what I'm reading.
There's no evidence that the altright as a group are plotting to murder other citizens. The reverse, threats to do violence to altrighters, I see that on a daily basis without looking for it online e.g. the "punch a nazi" meme. Going from that to "beat up a nazi" to injury/death is not a leap.
And who are they? It's a large collection of loosely connected right wing groups. A full list would take several A4 pages. Most of them hold beliefs little different to our grandparents or possibly great-grandparents in the case of the monarchists. Anybody to the right of the Republican party could be 'altright'. This isn't true but that seems to be how most people have built their classifier.
It's easy to prove that because if you ask (as Trump did to a reporter) people to define the group, they don't know how to do it. I think there is a definition but nobody in the media has mentioned it AFAIK, it's not something that is well understood and so "Nazis!". That nazi flag at the charlottesville rally? A singular item unless the photographers were holding out on us. There are lots of photographs and it's this one guy walking around with a nazi flag.
There seems to be a curious motte and bailey argument going on here. The altright is a relatively small set, but in the media and twitter they are either a fringe sect of right wing lunatics or they are an all pervasive threat to society. It can't be both. Not unless you have an infinitely extensible definition that you can be using for ulterior political purposes.
https://www.wired.com/story/leaked-alt-right-chat-logs-are-k...
Perhaps not "murder" but certainly "attack and maim". Please don't try excuse this with the "but they're only JOKING" trope - their intent is blatant and clear.
> it's this one guy walking around with a nazi flag
This article has a photo with two different guys holding two different flags - that makes at least 3.
https://azjewishpost.com/2017/hate-in-charlottesville-the-da...
If you're looking for people talking shit about their ideological rivals on the Internet you're going to find it. We can find examples of nazis or tankies threatening people any day of the week. They're nearly always posturing. What's different about "Punch a Nazi" is that it's a widespread meme across Twitter, Facebook and Reddit.
Imagine the reverse for a second. A meme called "Cut a Commie" receiving widespread acceptance from large groups of people across social media, including authority figures and celebrity endorsement.
> This article has a photo with two different guys holding two different flags - that makes at least 3.
Barely getting to plural!
It's the same as with that NPI conference in which 3-5 people raised their arms in a Nazi salute. The rise of the 4th Reich this is not. It's possible even those people are doing it 'for a laugh'. They're edgelords.
Have you any idea how many protests feature the flag with the hammer & sickle? Quite a lot more. I am not worried about Communist infiltrators interfering with my bodily fluids. They're nearly all edgelords, not Bolshevism 2.0
This is a moral panic, we have the media fanning the flames.
I strongly suspect if a lot of people on this forum simply turned off their television or newsfeed they'd be in a healthier place.
Arguably "good people" don't support nor vote for an individual who openly brags about assaulting women...
...unless you have a different definition of what is considered "good".
/much like christians claim "everything god does is good" - you know, like genocide via a flood...
Indeed, if you were to assume that every vote for a candidate is de facto support of everything they do/are, I don't think I ever could have voted for anyone.
They really don't give a shit about anyone or anything but their investment holdings. Nothing but some numbers on an account.
If you take that stance, then your options are:
1. 45% of the voting people in USA support sexually assaulting women.
Are you OK with that understanding? Do you not find something unsettling about saying 45% people in USA are OK for sexually assaulting women? The same conservative family oriented people, the same law and order people, the same god and sins people are supportive of sexually assaulting women? Can we have survived as a nation so far if so many people supported sexually assaulting women?
2. Hillary still lost to such person. What does that say about Hillary?
If Trump's audio conservation had not leaked, he would have won by even larger margin. What does THAT say about Hillary? Why do you think that was the case?
Unless you can show some evidence for this, it's just an unprovable counterfactual and completely useless.
However, you can still have irreconcilable differences in belief systems at an existential level.
Net neutrality was a disappointment, but myself and others in the tech community will learn to deal with the inconvenience.
The plight of illegal immigrants and the "religion of peace" has zero relevance to me, I simply don't care enough one way or the other to vote in favor of them.
I myself tend to get along with people with a wide range of political views. But I've always assumed it's because I'm a bit of a sociopath. I don't care enough to put other peoples' struggles above my personal relationships.
Also I think lowered emotional connection to the issues can actually be a huge benefit to understanding them rather than just "feeling" what side to pick.
So maybe you aren't a sociopath. :)
What are these viewpoints that are claimed to be conservative in nature? I have read the Texas GOP platform. Is that representative of conservatism?
https://www.texasgop.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/01/PERM-PLA...
This is a fair question at this point. I would posit answering this and also answering "What does liberal mean?" would be great things to address in high school political science classrooms, however it doesn't seem to be in the curriculum. We've had the better part of 30 years where media pundits have been doing their best to conflate these terms with concepts which are tangential at best or completely unrelated at worst.
First, I think it's important to understand that concepts like "conservative" and "liberal" refer to overarching political philosophies, and the actual ideology a person holds that describes themselves as such is probably a subset. Since we're focused on conservatism, I'll provide examples from there. So, in this case there may be broad differences in beliefs about particular political issues between an evangelical conservative Republican and a Libertarian, however both are conservatives. This type of difference arises with the concept of liberalism as well. Fundamentally, the liberal/conservative distinction is a line, and therefore each person falls at some point on that line within a broad spectrum.
Second, let's address the most simplistic explanation of the overarching philosophy, and then we'll get into some specifics of how this might manifest when applied to an individual. Conservatism is effectively a combination of three ideas:
1. Individuals know best about their own situations and working together can improve things better than a central authority (i.e. "government sucks at doing things" 2. Broad social and political change should be infrequent and considered fully, and therefore an adhesion to our founding charter (Declaration of Independence and the US Constitution) is critical to correct governance (i.e. "we've done it this way and it's worked out so far, why change?") 3. In order to ensure that both of the above are true it's essential to have a small central government which is only empowered and funded minimally at the bare necessity to achieve those general aims (i.e. "the best government is a small government")
Third, it's important to understand how much upbringing and experiences in life affect an individual's political ideology and the philosophy from which it is derived. It is no mistake or surprise that cities tend to be more liberal and rural locations tend to be more conservative in the United States. It's a result of somewhat unintended consequences of democracy conceptually and the realities of optimizing for bureaucratic efficiency. We know that basic rules of optimization (the Pareto principle) says that 80% of the job requires 20% of the work. This is true of many things when it comes to urban/rural divides, all the way down to broadband Internet connectivity. Democracy in its simplest form becomes rule by the majority, so larger concentrations of people (cities) hold more sway.
These two items result in people inhabiting rural areas being felt that not only do they not have a voice but that nobody cares to help them with their problems. The response to this is "clinging to traditions" because those traditions are by and large what has helped get them and their families through hard times for many years. In a fit of irony, the more underfunded the government the more heavily the government focuses on cities as that becomes the most rational pathway.
Finally, conservatism is rooted in two additional beliefs that are about the conduct of a person individually. That is, that generally everyone should be treated as an individual rather than via group identity (individualism as a loose philosophical base) and that because of this personal responsibility and hard work are the most important factors in success. This is one reason why people with conservative beliefs are less likely to approve of social safety nets, even though they would likely qualify as beneficiaries. The philosophy includes a belief structure of the self that would refuse the help out of shame at personal failure, and at the same time would judge others as failing for taking that help. In this mindset all that matters is taking responsibility for your self, including the outcome/reaction to a bad situation, and working hard to better things.
I've touched briefly on a lot of different things, and I've provided basically no sources for these statements. I'd like to write something much more thorough, but the reality is it'd be entirely too lengthy and I should be doing work right now. The topic is very complex, political ideologies themselves are complex, and this is one reason why I find it distasteful when someone is painted in broad strokes because of their political ideology (regardless of what that ideology is). Hopefully this comment is helpful to the discussion though.
It's essentially a generalised theory that explains left/right (liberal/conservative) differences in terms of a single underlying intuition about human nature. Because it's an intuition, you can't alter people's point on the political spectrum through an interesting fact or argument, it's only experience that can change people. And yet he shows how starting from this one basic assumption you can logically extrapolate all conservative and liberal political positions from it, in an entirely rational way.
I found it amusing that a man who was going to take an oath to defend the Constitution thought it was reasonable to call me un-American and try to beat me into silence. He left when I laughed at him instead of fighting back.
I had friends un-friend me on Facebook after my sister married a woman and I posted pictures and congratulations to them. I had colleagues who stopped talking to me after the same. They talk to me now (2 years later), but only professionally, formally. No more informal or loose friendship happening between us apparently.
This shit definitely happens on both sides.
If Trump hadn't done that, I would have gone for eternity judging those people as war mongers no matter the cost.
If Trump hadn't said "I want some punishment for the woman" on abortion, I would have gone for eternity judging all anti-choice folks to be for incarceration of women for exercising choice.
It wasn't a great policy before. It's not great now. Hiding who you are to avoid ridicule doesn't solve the problem. If the majority opinion is safe to express, but your opinion isn't, then being forced to hide doesn't actually solve the problem. Even if you hide your views, you may get asked why you don't support the majority's viewpoints.
As others have said, it goes both ways: liberal in a red state, conservative in a blue state.
At the end of the day, the people you meet at work are not there because they want to be friends. They're there for one reason: to make money. If you respect other people's boundaries then they respect you.
[1] https://www.fastcompany.com/3028664/lgbt-programmers-speak-o...
Unpopular with a powerful lobby within the liberal tech industry, yes.
You already see why posting that was a bad idea because you're primed to argue, even though you know it won't go anywhere.
I bring it up because the outrage is clearly so manufactured, not because I'm "primed to argue, even though I know it won't go anywhere."
I went to Texas and wasn't looking for it - but the first bar I walked into had photos of Obama and Hillary duct taped to the urinal for people to aim at :P
Coworker: "My younger brother was killed in Iraq in 2007."
You: "I voted for Bush."
I'm sure you can see why Coworker wouldn't be pleased by your statement in this instance. I'm on the Left working at an oil company, so I feel your pain. It helps if you want to talk about these things to shift their Overton window slowly, not to expect tolerance for unthinkable actions right out of the gate (it's not right, but that's how it is).
Liberals and Left-wingers are people too, and thus are vulnerable to the same tribal bullshit that some (luckily few) people on the Right and (luckily) fewer people on the Left are proud of. Despite all effort, you (general and specific) and they can't stop from feeling these tribal in-group feelings any more than they can just stop feeling thirsty after a day of not drinking any water.
EDIT: One of these days I should write a post, How to Talk About Politics with People Who Disagree With You.
Your conversation leading to upset is based in the assumption that the coworker already shares your worldview in regard to the Iraq war. It's one I share too, so I can see why that'd be automatic, but I've met and known people who fought in Iraq. They didn't exactly seem ashamed!
It's been my experience that each region has its dominant sociopolitical culture and that there are always people who are unable to see beyond that and who become angry when confronted by anything other.
Both myself and my other housemates didn't understand it at the time, but I didn't lose respect for him as a person. In the most recent election, I've come to at least understand more of his views. I wish I could talk to him about it, but he passed away a few years ago.
I currently hold a controversial opinion myself, that the parties are essentially the same and the elections simply do not matter. I do not think anything would be different under either potential candidate. You can say some of the social issues would be affected (trans people in the military), but if you focus on those, you view the current government as just stupid. But they're not. They knew banning trans people would cause outrage. You add a stupid reason, and you need to realize they knew that was an intentionally stupid reason, and people focus their hate. It is literally the 2 minute hate from Orwell's 1984, except it's been around for over a decade and it's now the 24/7 hate from all the news networks.
http://fightthefuture.org/articles/the-fallout-of-american-a...
In big tech areas, I cannot get over the number of people who would say, "No there is a difference [between the parties]!" whenever I expressed this view. Over 60 million people voted for Trump. That doesn't mean those 60+ million are uneducated or stupid or racist. Over 60 million people voted for Clinton. That doesn't mean those 60+ million are compromising or ignorant. Over 40% of those eligible chose not to vote. They all get clumped together, even though their reasons are greatly varied.
And keep in mind, there is a 2014 Princeton Study that shows the the opinions of the average voter in America have a statically insignificant, near zero, effect on all policy decisions (unless you're part of the top 10% of income earners):
https://scholar.princeton.edu/sites/default/files/mgilens/fi...
America, and even many European nations, are becoming increasingly polarized. But human beings don't fit into two categories. There is no real left or right. Someone might be supportive of gay rights, be for gun control and yet still think trans people suffer from mental illness. Another might be against gun control and affirmative action, and have other libertarian-ish beliefs, yet believe strongly in public transportation and universal health care.
We do not fit into the nice cylinders of political categories, and we certainly don't fit into the false dichotomy of the left/right. But we're taught that's where the line is, that we have to take sides, and keep fighting each other instead of the real players, the _eminence grise_ of Exxon, BP, Microsoft, Facebook, Google, Boeing and all the other players who really control what's going on and who are systematically implementing policy that increases tension, increases conflict and escalates war throughout the would.
That's a bit of a point towards what libertarians and conservatives (but, to be clear, not alt-righters) think. If fewer issues were national and more were left up to individuals, even, you wouldn't have to lament what the national government does. You could move to a more sane place. And your opinion would matter more in a smaller jurisdiction.
Interestingly, we're seeing this symptom happening more in tech companies, which are not the government but they certainly govern in some respects, at least the things they are responsible for. There is starting to be appetite in conservative and libertarian circles for discussion about what to do about unelected corporate bureaucracies having this sort of power.
There IS a difference between the political parties.
All you have to do is look at their voting records on key issue. Here's a comprehensive breakdown, for proof:
https://np.reddit.com/r/technology/comments/6pc5qu/democrats...
Neither party ever even tried to do anything about:
- term limits, limits on money in politics
- getting rid of lobbyists (their own sponsors)
- punishing Wall Street criminals
- reforming business law to give shareholders more control over executive compensation
- stopping the runaway train of national debt - etc.
Both parties were/are mostly:
- anti-privacy (anti-Snowden, anti-Wikileaks, etc)
- pro-war, the military budget is untouchable, whether it is McCain or Hillary
- ever-increasing spending (despite Reps rhetoric)
- happy (Dems) or uninterested (Reps) in lowering healthcare costs
- corrupt, with "foundations" and "speaking fees" flowing freely
There is much more, but this thread is off-topic, so I will stop here.
Term limits are a horrible non-solution, but Republicans did push a Constitutional Amendment for them them on Congress in 1995, securing a majority but not the supermajority required for a Constitutional Amendment.
> limits on money in politics
Bipartisan finance reform has passed several times, only for the most significant measures to be struck down by the courts.
A number of your other points are similarly ill-informed.
both parties are corporatist, neoliberal, military-interventionist, and in general anti-democratic in that they are very happy to allow wealthy interests to set policy without deferring much to the will of the people.
Unfortunately, it will take years (if ever) for most people to realize this.
trump is just randomly going from one to another mostly unconsequential decision.
bush went to war, purposefully let torture be instigated (while trump say ok for torture motsly to look tough) and promoted hugh oil conglomerates.. he's also the governor who order the most inmates to be sent to death row
Learn to see the difference between talk and action.
I do have to say this part has amused me the most, as a registered independent who leans heavily socially liberal (I'm more conservative when it comes to economic issues - but more in the sense that I want money going to things that advance the species, rather than destroy it).
I certainly expected after the last election to see a steamroller of conservative GOP legislation being passed left and right. Instead, we got a bunch of EOs - and a stalled Congress. I was not expecting that.
Not that I like it, mind you...
I'm curious if any nation has experimented with a hybrid of direct and representative democracies: people choose their stances on actual issues, and the candidate most matching the spirit of society is elected.
Parliamentary systems with proportional representation and "coalition" governments exist throughout the world. The U.S. just isn't one of them and would require a big overhaul of the Constitution in order to change that.
While there still exists voting along party lines, having more than 2 major parties there tends to be a little more variety in official platforms.
Recently, Alberta which is traditionally more conservative voted for a Muslim mayor in Calgary, and the NDP (Canada's socialist democratic party) into provincial office. Even our Green party gained a seat in Victoria/Saanich (British Columbia) last election.
In 00 I thought Bush voters were just sort of clods, hopelessly partisans with a poor understanding of the dangers of nepotism and monarchy. (I thought the same about Clinton voters in 08 and much of 16, to be fair)
In 04, Bush voters were supporting a guy who responded to the 9/11 attacks by invading _the wrong country_ (secular Hussein working with bin Ladin? honestly), and okaying the torture of human beings for information. You can’t chalk this up to “some people like chocolate, others vanilla,” Abu Ghraib doesn’t fit under a comfy blanket.
If you had admitted voting for his re-election to me at lunch I would have gotten up and left the table without saying a word.
((Not that it matters, but I grew up in Montana, I understand conservatives and conservativism))
I can understand feeling this way, but do you see this as a response that improves the situation? Is your impulse to silent action just that it's easier than engaging, or is there a positive outcome of silently leaving that would not be also achieved by explaining your reasons for leaving?
Engaging in a discussion of why you feel the way you do seems like it might have the best chance of a possible outcome. If their response is that are in favor of our behavior at Abu Graib that you despise, then I can understand giving up and leaving.
(Ironically, this responseless post was voted below zero when I found it, and dead from user flagging when I tried to reply, which I think is equivalent to the "silently leaving" approach espoused by the author. I'd be interested to hear from those who flagged it why they did so.)
No. I don't think "just leaving" would have improved the situation. A screaming match and fists wouldn't have improved the situation either.
American culture has found itself in this weird space where arguments that were supposedly settled in the last century are apparently still up for debate. In the case of torture, there are two questions at hand: One, does it work, and two, if it works, is its use defensible. Believing the first is ignorant; believing the second is inhumane.
I don't see any sort of constructive middle ground or even argument to be had over such a basic conversation of good vs. evil. Since I spent most of 2004-2008 in a state of rage over the presence and defense of actual evil in a country and society that I love, I would not have had the self-control necessary to engage in a dialogue. So I would have left.
(The down-voting was weird but predictable.)
The idea that there are points of view (not actions or laws but ideas) that warrant violence is a large and growing problem.
Wasn't the passivity and meekness of the opposition the exact reason fascists were able to rise relatively easily in the intrawar period?
Personally, I think the concept that there aren't ideas worth throwing a punch over is equally as repugnant as saying you should punch anyone you disagree with.
No, it wasn't. I can't speak to what passivity would have caused, maybe things would have been even worse in Germany, but we can't really know, because 'passivity and meekness' didn't happen.
From around the time hyperinflation started, Weimar Germany was torn apart by openly violent factionalism. There was no significant period where fascists propagandized and recruited freely, or even did so without violent opposition. Bear in mind that the Beer Hall Putsch saw 16 Nazis and 4 police officers die, plus a large number of arrests.
The Sturmabteilung, the Nazi paramilitary arm, was only one of many streetfighting organizations pushing to violently resist and silence its opponents. The RotFront was a famous paramilitary group advocating total communist revolution, which led major actions against the SA. The Stahlhelm were reactionary, monarchist conservatives who opposed the Weimar government, communists, and Nazis. The Iron Front were center-leftist paramilitaries whose 'three arrows' logo represented opposition to fascists, communists, and monarchists alike.
All of these groups engaged in extensive streetfighting and propagandizing, and everyone who wasn't the SA hated the Nazis. There was no shortage of anti-fascist violence in Germany - most visibly in the early thirties, but beginning well before that.
The lesson of interwar Germany isn't that tolerance breeds fascism. It's that streetfighting violence can fail completely. Fighting Nazism with rocks and clubs was tried, to no effect - it turns out that beatings neither dissuade nor deconvert people. In the end, the violence which solved the problem was a war, which proceeds on rather different lines - it changes views by killing people with said views.
I agree that there are plenty of ideas worth fighting for. But the claim that passivity is what enabled fascism in Germany is factually false; passivity simply wasn't the state of affairs in the Weimar period.
One thing that it is important to distinguish is holding an idea versus acting on it. The fascists were acting on their views, not merely holding them and talking about them. And violence may demand violence. And action, passing laws that enslave and oppress, that may demand violence too in some circumstances. But speech, even organized speech, demands speech not violence. It may demand a LOT of speech. But it does not demand violence.
If a person is willing to use violence to silence an opposing view that is being non-violently spoken, then that is the worse thing in my view. This includes the violent suppression of racist and sexist and other discriminatory views. Though I detest those positions, I detest violence more.
Now, inciting people to violence. Calling people to violence. I do believe that that is a different issue. And one that I do not know how to deal with.
Holding different opinions is natural to everyone. It is the treatment of how one listens, your body language while listening, the amount of time given after one stops speaking before a counterpoint is given. Fights erupt when people do not listen, and of course when one side can't articulate their position and the conversation devolves from mature.
Two respectful mature adults can talk about any painful subject. If you can't, that's an indication of a need to mature, either yourself or your attitude towards others.
If you're voting to take away people's healthcare, or to discriminate against them based on who they love, or their gender, then of course they are angry!
But it's fair to expect that you won't get into a fistfight with someone just because they make you angry.
Some people won't be cowed by a publicly aggressive racist... I'd tell my boss that I'm uncomfortable working with them. I'm not a snowflake, if someone else can't handle my speach and the resulting consequences of their own.
As someone who falls on the Liberal side of the spectrum, this bothers me more than almost anything else regarding modern day politics. If you fall in line with the "right" (left) side, you are allowed to say any number of disparaging, mean, hateful, or ignorant comments without fear of consequence - as long as it's aimed at the political right-wing. If you mention you are a conservative or hold conservative views, you are aligned with the worst of the worst and anything you say is inherently wrong.
The liberal echo chamber is just as bad, if not worse, than the conservative's version of the same thing. I don't think work is ever the correct place to discuss political views in depth, but I can't imagine feeling like I can't express any view without fear of being downright hated.
It has a name: double standard
I like to think of it like weak minded people who love to dish out insults but accuse you of being the most indecent person on the planet if you repeat their exact words back to them.
> The liberal echo chamber is just as bad, if not worse, than the conservative's version of the same thing.
I'd lean towards worse. I don't recall anyone attempting to publicly shame me for not being "conservative enough". I'd wager that most liberals have encountered some version of that.
Yeah, but you'll always have rationalization on why one side thinks it's okay: "It's okay in my case because I'm intolerant of intolerance" "It's okay in my case because I'm bigoted against bigotry"
Proof that you did not grow up in a very religious community.
Odd. Just an observation: conservatives in the US have a commonly used name for that - RINO - Republican in Name Only - and there is no equivalent name among liberals.
Oh, thanks, THAT is one that I had heard and subsequently forgotten.
Has anyone here ever actually been called a "DINO?" My personal sphere is populated largely with Democrats, Leftists, and Libertarians of various stripes and I've never seen this phrase written or spoken in conversation. (the only one I've seen on that page you linked to is "Blue Dog Democrats," and I'm pretty sure I've never heard that one spoken in person. I wasn't aware it was a pejorative.)
I am not at all sure that means Democrats are more accepting of dissent in the ranks, but they haven't got such a commonly used term for it.
These folks are shunned by both groups. One guy told me once he had friends of 20 years that wouldn't let him in the house when they found out he owned a gun.
But the question one asked that I keep getting back to is this: would the Civil Rights movement stand a chance today in the world many in the left wants to set up?
Another commenter mentioned being assaulted by a ROTC cadet for expressing liberal views. As bad as that is, I'm much more supportive of open fisticuffs, along with a jail sentence for whomever started it, than creating systems of political suppression that many major SV corps seem intent on doing. It doesn't get more fucked up and evil than that -- and I have no doubt in my mind that the people doing it are nice and well meaning. All the worse.
Most of my views sit closer to the middle than either pole - but I can't actually discuss this with any of my "liberal" friends. If I say anything that isn't a complete regurgitation of a leftist facebook meme, I'm suddenly an "alt-right sympathizer" (real quote). It's made it so that whenever politics comes up at all I just check out of the conversation. It's hard because I really do enjoy debating and talking about politics, but nobody wants to debate anymore. Everyone wants to be correct and shame the other side into changing their views.
Politics isn't baseball. The stakes are real, more so for some than for others. If you want to express a political view at work then the people to whom you are expressing it have a right to dislike you for it.
Do those people have a right to take action to negatively impact your career/livelihood/ability-to-provide-for-your-family because of your political views?
People actively share "if you like x you can remove me as your friend" shit on facebook, companies fire people for expressing their political views and media companies "choose a side" more then ever. And don't tell me Google isn't. Just look at Youtube with their new anti-free speech rules that they enforce in restricted mode and the new demonitazation for content. Look at their search engine. If you swap to DuckDuckGo you will instantly see the bubble you were in and the many results that are not shown.
This is not really unique to USA or a single company like Google, it's happening within EU and other companies as well. This is coming from me, who probably would in the US be called a communist by conservatives :)
I'm not seeing hatred towards people for arguing over correct levels of import taxes. I'm seeing it because they're backing politicians who are actively causing harm to real human beings.
Sure you are. You see someone vote for Trump and immediately assume it must be because they're an evil, ethically flawed person who inexplicably hates love, sunshine and puppies, whereas perhaps they mostly care about taxes. You even did it in this post. Your thinking is knee jerk and shallow, and it's people like you that are causing the problems in the first place.
Similarly, if I had spent much time in Libya, I might consider holding my nose and voting for the candidate who didn't work hard to create that situation. (Again, I will grant that situation was going wrong without our involvement, but we're good at making things worse.)
I voted for Clinton because I agree with most of her policies, and think she's immensely qualified, but I keep hearing "if you voted for Trump, that means you didn't consider his statements disqualifying" But it doesn't--it could just mean you think the other candidate had stuff that was more disqualifying.
It's not absurd to consider bombing people worse than saying sexist and racist shit. It seems like a lot of Trump voters thought Trump's worst aspects were "just talk".
There wasn't an option for "Clinton without the interventionism" on the ballot. Similarly, there's no "Trump without the sexism/racism" option.
I will grant that most of them didn't have "Clinton bombed Libya" as their justification for their Trump vote. Abortion, though, I think is a real reason for a lot of religious people.
I don't think my vote for Clinton should be taken to mean I'm okay with the positions she pushed for in North Africa and the Middle East, and that means also not declaring Trump voters were necessarily okay with his crap either.
No?
But that was her policy - the "no fly zone" that could only be implemented by shooting down Russian jets, or perhaps people have forgotten.
In contrast Trump wanted to make peace with Russia.
So maybe I can assume anyone who didn't vote Trump has a racist hatred of Russians.
knock the crap out of them …. I promise you, I will pay for the legal fees
You didn't vote for Trump over the correct level of import taxes.
Or maybe you didn't vote for, but voted against (I hear some studies say this is the primary way people vote, btw.)?
Or maybe you had some other reason? I could invent plenty more. The point being, judging someone by the sole data point of their choice in the voting booth, without knowing reasons for it, is one of the most stupid kind of thinking imaginable. In fact, in less emotionally charged contexts, people generally don't show that kind of stupidity.
This has always piqued my curiosity -- would you mind explaining? Why is this such a deep tenet that I hear it so often as justification for shunning people? Apparently, there is something egregious about "treating people differently" because of "how they were born." What is wrong about this? Can you make this statement more concrete? How are the following "treatments" egregious?
* Someone is born deaf, so his parents give him care related to his disability, which is different compared to what they would have done otherwise.
* Someone was born with a great vocal range, so people encourage them to become a singer.
* Someone is born with great mathematical abilities, so later in life they are top-pick by quantitative companies, which pay them extra for the value they are expected to deliver.
* Someone has many insecurities and a history of nervous breakdowns and psychological damage, so we don't give them a high-stress job (for instance, the military doesn't hire them).
To go over your examples - the singing case is rather clear-cut, so is the math one (barring the Tiger Mother meme). Psychological damage starts entering into "neurodiversity" sphere. And about deaf people - there are many deaf communities which don't consider this as a disability, but as a different type of experience. In fact, the right for deaf parents to purposefully create a deaf child (when normally it would have working hearing) is a topic that's sometimes discussed.
It's not a very detailed explanation, but the rule of thumb is - when there's a vocal group of people who tie some quality X into their identities, talking about discriminating on X gets off-limits in the current culture.
I agree with your rule of thumb, but that seems like a positive description of the situation, not the normative one I'm looking for. You're giving me the conditions under which there will be outrage for discrimination (i.e., there exists a socially vocal/outspoken group that identifies with the quality being discriminated on). However, I was trying to tease out what the moral rule purported by such groups could be, since I see the "don't discriminate for how I was born" claim so often (and so forcefully put). I would suppose there should be some deep moral law being broken.
Second, I work in tax policy. There is absolutely hate between many people who disagree on taxation.
I would love to hear from some third-party voters about how they were treated by the left after the 2016 election.
I don't like religion for example and would like organized religion to be illegal in my country. If I went on TV and said this I bet this would be a very unpopular opinion and people would most likely send me tons of death threats. I think this mentality is stupid and if you are upset the correct assement is not being a child about it but actually proving me wrong by arguments and facts.
Given where those arguments have lead before -- the holocaust -- is allowing people to advocate for those viewpoints truly harmless?
And keep in mind, all the people who profited off that war: IBM who made the punch cards to track those interned, Ford motors who built the rail tracks for concentration camps, Ford himself who had his employees hand out anti-semetic propaganda, Prescot Bush/American Standard Oil who sold oil to both sides .. all these companies funded and benefited greatly from the results of that conflict.
By focusing on the Nazis you ignore the fact that wars needs funding. Few of those who funded and profited from that conflict were ever held accountable.
Modern neo-Nazis are the modern boogieman. They make us afraid, but unless they are funded, their reach is quite limited. They are loud, but easily ignored. Those who give them a voice, news and media outlets, do so to profit from the readership.
Could I maybe inquire why Stalin, Mao, Pol Pot and Che who wiped out a lot more people than Hitler and whose images ( especially Che ) show up quite prominently on T-shirts worn by people on the coasts do not trigger the same kind of hysteria?
It's almost like you are purposely trying to rile people up
I sure am. I think import taxes should be raised so that workers in the western world aren't competing in a race to the bottom with the third world. Somehow over the last few years this has come to mean that I'm a racist, uneducated redneck. The left have abandoned the working class.
This is a very, very poorly thought out thing to say. Nothing we're experiencing right now in the US compares in terms of vitriol and danger to McCarthyism, the first red scare, the civil rights era, or abolitionism. We're not even close.
Cheer up! Things can get a whole lot worse.
It's been worse in the past: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/McCarthyism
After all, these are boomers' children.
That said, with the polarization of political debate, people rabidly defend viewpoints they don't even understand or never thought about rationally. It means you cannot have interesting arguments because you don't share any axioms with the other party, and you have different opinions on basic stuff such as "do poor people deserve to die" or "should gay people be reeducated" or "do we put immigrants in concentration camps", at which point you can only give up and break contact with resignation. Sure, I can interact with people like that on trivial stuff if I have to, but don’t ask me to be overly nice to someone who would rather see me or people I like dead.
I consider myself liberal, but (and?) I disagree on various topics, mostly on affirmative action. However, if you think that introducing more bias is a bad way to solve existing bias, you're a racist.
It's not "I disagree with you", it's "your opinion is different from what I adhere to so I won't even consider it" on very specific topics, and my opinions aren't even that far from the rest of the ideology. I can certainly see how it'd make people with wildly different opinions feel isolated.
This doesn't make any sense to me - as an (extreme) libertarian, I see very little progress on that front. The Democrats and Republicans have each used the libertarian "brand" when it has suited them, but neither have implemented any actual libertarian positions in my lifetime, at least not that I can recall.
Out of curiosity, are you perhaps viewing American politics from the perspective of someone accustomed to European politics?
I probably am. With the "golden calves" point, I meant that there are specific topics that are adhered to religiously, and any attempt to discuss them produces a reflexive negative reaction. I'm not even talking about extreme ideology, I'm talking about things like the Google memo, which, although it did have some points that didn't really stand (and which should have sparked discussion, as the memo intended), didn't merit the shitstorm that ensued, in my opinion.
I see this in various friends of mine, when we discuss, for example, hiring quotas. Personally, I generally consider hiring quotas a bad practice, and discussed this with a friend, who is heavily in favor of them. However, when I told him about how my sister got passed over for hiring in favor of a male competitor as a result of affirmative action (lawyers here are overwhelmingly female), I could sense that my friend didn't agree with it either. It felt like his opinion wasn't "minorities should have an advantage", but rather "this particular group of people should have an advantage even where they're the majority". That strikes me as a fundamentally non-rational position.
Another point is that I feel that if you're a white, middle-class male, you can basically never be right. If someone puts you down, you can't complain because there are other people who are less privileged than you. It's the "starving children in Africa" argument.
Take all this with a grain of salt, though, as the society I live in isn't like this. All of the above is what I gather from talking to my american friends and colleagues, so I may be off the mark or wrong in many things.
Republicans: extreme right (slight adjustment: closed borders, mostly for laissez-faire economic reasons)
Democrats: extreme right (slight adjustment: (ever so slightly more) open borders, mostly for laissez-faire economic reasons)
Libertarians: extreme right
Even the bloody US communist party does not want to abolish markets. Think about how crazy that is.
On the borders point of view, a traditional leftist (one from the 70s or 80s) might even say that the republicans are clearly to the left, politically, of the democrats. Why ? Closed borders protect the rights, and increase living conditions and wages of laborers. Or, as we might say today, of "the 99%".
But yes, those same closed borders will make your iPads more expensive. A leftist should not care.
I know the left/right spectrum has many definitions, and there is little consensus on them, but I think this captures the essential philosophical and ideological distinctions: http://www.pocatelloshops.com/new_blogs/politics/wp-content/...
So by my measure, both Republicans and Democrats are in the middle leaning left - both supporting various forms of rights violations. Libertarians are further right, advocating a lot of good rights-protecting policies, but often for the wrong reasons - so they're not consistent in the policies they promote.
Also, "closed borders, mostly for laissez-faire economic reasons" doesn't really make sense, as that's an explicitly anti-laissez-fare policy (if you understand laissez-fare as "abstention by governments from interfering in the workings of the free market.", as it's most commonly meant).
Politics has become a singular (or at minimum, the dominant) identifier for so many people, that seeing someone who opposes your views means that they are not part of your community. I think re-establishing communities that bring meaning to people's lives would go a long way to helping get through this rough patch. These can be clubs, churches, sports, etc. People need something that they are passionate about that connects them to other people and let's them focus on something local. I think shifting eveyone's attention back toward their local politics and community (where most of the governing that actually impacts you is done) would do wonders.
Perhaps instead of labeling people as "x, y, and z" much like war propaganda has done through the years, we should try to understand where they are coming from?
You can always refer to the UK(a country that ended slavery before the USA and didn't need a civil war to do it) decided that affirmative action is illegal exactly because it is a racist policy.
This sums up rather well what I believe is a new era of righteous indignation in America. This is not isolated to just America, or Americans, but it's not something we've really had to deal with before. That righteous indignation manifests itself in how we react to people we disagree with, whether it's over a parking space, or something someone else does somewhere in the world that we don't like. The new belief is not "I disagree with you, go away" it's now "I disagree with you, and I'm going to do everything in my power to hurt you, destroy your reputation, get you fired from your job, and cause you as much pain as I can, likely from a distance." It borders on a collective superiority complex.
As someone who has worked in Congress, now as a lobbyist, I think this began with the leadership of both parties. No longer do our elected officials find way to reach common ground on public issues. Instead, both parties, their leadership, and through their public relations and voter base, have turned to a tactic of "attack, defame, and destroy." Washington has become dysfunctional because of this righteous indignation, and it has permeated down to everyone else, made exponentially possible by the internet.
I wish there was an easy solution, but I don't see one.
'The mode of being of the new intellectual can no longer consist of eloquence, which is an exterior and momentary mover of feelings and passions, but in active participation in practical life, as constructor [and] organizer, as "permanent persuader", not just simple orator.'
You can choose what aspects of yourself you want to reveal and conceal from people at work. For example, I don't reveal my religious beliefs to people at work unless someone asks me, which rarely happens. Politics is much the same.
> He showed coworkers emails he exchanged with Ivanka Trump after he mailed her photos he took at the Republican convention, and on election night, he texted colleagues snapshots from the floor of Trump’s victory party in New York City.
This person sounds like they're trying to rub their political views in everyone else's face.
I think the adherents of those views are currently enthralled by the power they gain from shunning and social ostracism.
It used to be free thinking. They would embrace "inclusiveness" under that banner. The problem is they've gone all-in with the notion that being a Social Justice Warrior is a morally superior ideological position and anyone else is a bad person. They really have become a distinct hate group even though in some places they are a majority.
I no longer associate with people who throw around the terms misogyny, patriarchy, and rape culture. I'm a pretty simple guy but I'm tired of hearing how bad I am just because I have a Y chromosome. The war on masculinity is very real.
Really, cause never once have I felt that way.
This is precisely the wrong way to make political decisions, but it pushes all of our lizard-brain buttons and I'm not sure how we pull out of it.
Basically one of the key points, especially in light of people being called Nazis (accurately or spuriously), is that one of the major social aspects of pre-war Germany was that there was radical polarization between fascist and anti-fascist groups similar to what we see now. However because the psychological makeup of someone who would support fascism is more drawn toward structuralism, law and order etc... they are much more organized and lethal as a group.
You see echoes here with the Alt-Right and Antifa. Alt-Right is structured, highly armed, biologically motivated (aka racist) and generally support law enforcement. Antifa is a loose consolidation of many groups (LGBT, Socialists, Radfem etc...) that is under armed and would likely not be as cohesive in the long run.
So by banning these hate groups from being searchable and driving them away, it just makes both sides echo each other more and gives strength to each extreme of the movements. Even worse, it gives people like the ones in this article no real option to be moderate - they basically feel like they need to join a radical ideology because they feel the only alternative is anathema. This is by the way what happens all over the world with terrorist recruiting etc... so the pattern is pretty well understood. If you create extremes, organizations will form around them and then the majority of people get drug along for the ride and do morally dubious things along the way.
That's the reason that I never attend work social events outside of work hours (Christmas parties, etc). If nothing else it's an unpaid imposition on my free time.
That's assuming it's done during work hours. If done outside it may still be an issue if it starts to effect the working relationship.
And I'm sitting here without any official party to call my own because I think both are idiotic with their identity politics. Which can be worse half the time because the Republicans think I'm a liberal, and the Democrats think I'm a conservative.
(this coming from someone living in a red state).
As the person whose post that was deleted mentioned, this is effectively the same type of argument as saying: "well, you know what will happen if you wear a sexy short skirt alone late at night".
In either case you don't deserve violence.
This makes zero sense to me. A private company having a corporate agenda and goals and using its power in the industry to enact social change sounds like something even Ayn Rand would be okay with. Libertarianism is supposed to champion the values of private property, political liberty and free association. This guy should realize he's working for a company with owners, and that under his own ideology, owners have every right to push whatever political agenda they want, and that if he has a problem with his company taking a stand on social justice, then that's fine, he should work somewhere else.
It's when you start doing things like making it illegal to 2 adults to have sex in the privacy of their home that I start to think "these are just bad people".
I think this is part of the problem.
Leadership at Silicon Valley companies want to think of themselves as enlightened and egalitarian when it comes to issues of race and gender. However, in reality, they have created an environment made up mostly of white, Indian, and Asian men.
So they are super sensitive and want to signal their virtue by cracking down on workers lower on the totem pole who seem insensitive to these diversity issues, because it's easier than making actual changes to improve diversity.
So you can't even debate an issue. You have to take a 'side' on an issue.
What you're witnessing is an example of the very thing the article is about. Calling out the SJWs on their bad behavior is not acceptable.
What is going on?
For example, when talking about confederate statues coming down, a conservative will respond to arguments around why it's traditional and patriotic to remove those statues (along with why it's fair) whereas a liberal will concentrate only on why it's fair. Make an argument that focuses only on the fairness aspect and the conservative will remain unconvinced and the liberal will think the conservative is a horrible person, because the liberal heavily values fairness.
Liberals are most sensitive to the Care and Fairness moral foundations and conservatives are equally sensitive to all the first five foundations. I think the sixth foundation was added for libertarians.
- Care: cherishing and protecting others; opposite of harm.
- Fairness or proportionality: rendering justice according to shared rules; opposite of cheating.
- Loyalty or ingroup: standing with your group, family, nation; opposite of betrayal.
- Authority or respect: submitting to tradition and legitimate authority; opposite of subversion.
- Sanctity or purity: abhorrence for disgusting things, foods, actions; opposite of degradation.
A sixth foundation, Liberty or oppression, was theorized by Jonathan Haidt in The Righteous Mind chapter 8.
Once you understand that the other person is thinking about the problem in a very different way than you, you can stop talking past each other and start getting to a sort of understanding.
Haidt's TED talk is a fun introduction to the subject.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vs41JrnGaxc
As a final note, I wonder if conservatives could use their own experiences to develop some much needed empathy for minorities and women in STEM? These groups seem to be at odds right now, but they actually have a lot in common when it comes to feeling like an outsider who will never fully be accepted. Likewise, minorities and women might be missing an opportunity for diversity allies because they are writing off conservatives as being against their cause without ever trying to look for common ground.
You're hired to work. Not to share your opinion with your co-workers. Why is this so hard for people to understand?
Instead we talk about changing behaviors.
I wonder if liberals who work for libertarian company cultures also feel isolated.
Union organisers certainly do - until they're fired.
Or, in some notable historical cases, murdered.
Even then, not a good idea.
If you're being isolated and marginalised for opinions that aren't themselves marginalising, then there's a real problem.
Okay, see how utterly useless this "controversy" is now?
But, unfortunately, the irony is that the same mechanism that isolates conservatives on SV and liberals on oil companies is working here to isolate your good sense in Hacker News.
Political business monocultures have been a thing since forever. Dial the clock back a little and you have bosses pressuring you to campaign for Nixon. Dial it forward again and you have CEOs starting meetings with prayer. Dial it forward to today where one dude gets fired for arguing Nazi race science, and suddenly we all have to chat.
We get surprised when groups that we expect to be sophisticated behave exactly like Polynesian/Amazonian tribes or chimpanzees in the Congo.
But, many times, civilization is just a varnish over bestiality, a make-up on a pig. Deep down we react like tribes that repress behavior that looks threatening to our group cohesion.
It seems as if because the liberal cities do financially so much better than the small town America many of those conservative Americans want to move here and feel comfortable expressing and acting on their view. The problem is I don't want to welcome those ideas, and I don't want people comfortable saying those things around me. I have a good feeling there a reason why liberal places do better, and there no such thing as a conservative mega city in America. Those ideas don't work, they don't promote growth, and I think expressing those ideas would hamper the places where these liberal companies reside
Would you support legislation to prevent people from expressing views that disagree with?
I don't care why you think minimum wages should be low because everywhere it is trash. I don't care what social issue you believe should dominate because every conservative city has trash culture. I can think of a single conservative idea I'd want implement and I think it's a weird cognitive dissonance that you believe that B.S. but would move all the way to the most liberal city in the world instead of one with those stupid ideas.
And guess what, 25 years of being related to her and she hasn't once hit me with a bit of wood over a difference of opinion.
I can imagine they may feel isolated in the sense that their views are not very common. But isolated in the sense of, if I let on I voted for Obama I will get fired? I am very skeptical of that.
My experience of these issues is that one part of society has become exceptionally intolerant far beyond other parts. I do not hear stories of conservative companies engaging in mini civil wars and retribution firings over liberal memos.
Every group prizes social cohesion. When a behavior looks threatening to that cohesion it is a natural defense for the group to isolate such threat. It is a necessary part of its survival, like an organism reacting to parasites, infections or offending threats.
This reaction even has respectable philosophical ethical justifications, see Karl Popper's discussion on the limits of tolerance.
I do not condone with intolerance, but we should understand that, at a very primary instinctive level, there are evolutionary and biological reasons for this. These are even some of the reasons for the downvotes I will get.
You can tell an article hits home when people are flagging it to death to hide it.
Where "hits home" means "outrage-inducing" and "divisive". It's perfectly understandable to flag such things, in order to prevent the place from degenerating into a typical discussion board, where people are up each others' throats over trivia instead of trying to create something useful together.
Since when is Boston in a 'red state'?
Austin is in a red state, but it's not a conservative place.
If you really think there's a change that needs to happen you could drive for it, but no, it's not inherently going to make you popular. The same issues faced by people who struggle/have struggled for more diversity in the private sector over the decades.
Seriously, if your whole cause is just a protest movement to complain about how other people don't agree with you or respect you, even once you hold power, what's the point of your politics?
I discuss controversial topics in person with my close friends, and I don't feel any poorer for it.
I say your politics, whatever they are, make me feel hurt, scared, and angry.
Obviously you can't argue with this; my feelings are my feelings and are thus inarguable.
Therefore, by your basic rule, you are no longer allowed to even state any of your political beliefs, because such would make me feel hurt, scared, and angry. And it doesn't matter what your beliefs are or how you arrived at them or what reasoning is behind them. Because according to you, maintaining my feelings, no matter how fragile or hypersensitive or unreasonable they may be, is an absolute imperative and all other values must be sacrificed to achieve that goal.
Now I've got total control over the speech of anyone around me. I can shut down anyone, making any statement on any topic. I need only declare that I feel hurt, scared, or angered by that statement - and such inarguable declarations have absolute unappealable power to silence.
See the problem here? It's obvious you can't run a society this way. It just becomes a race to the bottom of people being more and more hypersensitive to gain power. At a certain point, people do need to be told to grow a thicker skin.
If someone, in your place of business, says "what you just said was hurtful and offensive", then yes, I think maybe you shouldn't say it. Or at least take pause and consider why what you said may be hurtful.
None of that prevents your ability to say what you want outside the office.
That will offend them even more of course, which is why companies that don't have tough management will all be wrecked by this social strategy in the coming years. Google is already clearly far gone. At some point employees that constantly claim to be offended need to be told they'll be fired if they don't toughen up.
Not really. This only works if your opinions are part of the current zeitgeist. If not, then nobody will really care what some loner is hurt by, and will probably just avoid talking to you, period.
> At a certain point, people do need to be told to grow a thicker skin.
OK, but that doesn't work. It only makes people angrier and even more determined to exclude you.
On one hand, I would argue that getting angry because someone doesn't share your views is unprofessional. On the other, I would like to point out that the point of this article is that this is a one-way street: If Progressives experience any of these emotions in reaction to your political views, those views are unwelcome. If conservatives/libertarians/etc. experience those emotions in reaction to your views, then that's just too bad for them.
The CEO has brought his religion to the workplace to the detriment of many of his employees, and as a result I am both hurt (by being "enemied") and scared (for the long-term existence of 1st-Amendment protection for my religious practice, given the company's legal activism). Is it still true in this case that "insisting that people grow a thicker skin won't work"?
* Your boss parading his religion around and making you feel othered, while probably legal, is uncool.
* Though I would be remiss if I didn't point out that across America, it's by and large the Christian viewpoint that's flaunted at employees. I feel bad for you, but I'm also happy that you've been given an opportunity to understand why this is bad.
* You're protected from being _discriminated against_ based on his religious beliefs.
* That law being "paraded" is the one that protects you from your boss discriminating against you based on his religious beliefs.
(I understand that "Christian" and "Buddhist" are very broad categories, and that there are myriad forms contained within each of them...)
I think, though, the reality is that politics (and concomitant voting choices) has consequences on the lives of others, and this pattern of some social isolation is in turn a consequence of that.
It isn't Star Wars vs Star Trek, it's whether Jim the SRE can marry his long-term boyfriend Mike, or whatever.
It's not just politics. It never is. Votes make a difference in people's lives.
What do conservatives expect, when society is moving away from the social views their party has aligned itself with?
And, to remain solution-focused, how should the rest of us befriend them when the conservative party in this country has such views? What's the common ground we can look for?
To go with gay issues (I have a lot more gay friends than people of color friends, so I'm more sympathetic to their issues day-to-day), to you folks out there who oppose gay marriage now, or supported Reagan when AIDS was decimating the gay community in the 80s, or any number of examples...
How may I find common ground with you when your politics and votes have hurt so badly the community so many of my friends are a part of?
The thought I'm guessing at the time was to encourage new families to build up society, but not even all straight, married couples are doing that. Why not just take the government out of the equation and let anyone declare any kind of relationship status they want. It's not like I have to take part in it.
Because again there are real-world consequences, like being considered a family member if your loved one's in a hospital, or getting access to death benefits if your loved one dies in the line of duty, or whatever.
But that's not what one of the two mainstream parties is saying: they're saying, "traditional marriage, and the rest of you can go sit on a fence."
This stuff gets personal for so many people so quickly because, in effect, one political party is telling a lot of folks that their humanity is lesser or less deserving of access to government than the rest of us.
How do you not take that personally (and make social choices based on), if you're in that group that's being told they should have less access to government?
I would like to see the Democratic party focus on issues like workers rights, fighting white and black poverty, healthcare, etc.