2) "My (partner) works in insurance. He does shit like this for a living. Please don't make me have to (goto 1)".
3) Feel free to cite the law where relevant, on paper, certified mail. The response is invariably "this is wrong, you misunderstand the law, but we will make an exception and (follow the fucking law this once.)"
I was in health insurance, management level, before I went into medicine.