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> was told by a potential investor that she'd be a good C.E.O because "you're not Kim Kardashian-attractive, but you're girl-next-girl attractive," she recalled. Another asked if she was going to demonstrate her products for him.
Sigh... There has been more talk recently of publicly outing investors/anyone that makes these kinds of comments. I support it fully.
Sigh... Anyone, of any gender, is probably going make this joke regardless of the gender of the other party.
If you can't laugh with the joke you probably shouldn't be in the sex industry. At all.
Nothing to see here. Move along.
I'm sure you have a female in your life who is important to you. A wife, daughter, mother? Would you be ok with an investor talking to your daughter like that? Joking that she demonstrate a sex toy for him? I would be absolutely furious.
This is not something to just ignore.
Buy anyway: passing joke? That's fine. Absolutely normal.
If the person demanded a demonstration that would be completely different.
If you choose to read it as "the future is only female" you can do that, but I'm fairly certain that's not how it's meant to be read.
To me inserting the "only" into the phrase is a lot like reading "black lives matter" as "only black lives matter". Sure the original slogan's phrasing is ambiguous, but it's a slogan and slogans are by necessity simplified.
But there are many well-intentioned people that WILL read it as that. And with this I fault the the writer and not the reader.
I think this is one of the biggest problems modern liberal movements have with messaging. And I say this as someone who 100% is in support of "the future is more female than the past, which was predominantly male" and "black lives matter".
I don't think the issue is in the nature of brevity in communication. When these movements create their slogans, their number one goal seems to be motivating and incensing the base of people that already agree with them. It seems that the question is never asked: "how will this messaging come across to people who don't already agree with us?" - let alone, "how can we convince those people to acclimate to our viewpoint?" A shirt that says "the future is only female" seems likely to increase vitriol by pushing away and shutting down well-meaning disaffecteds that might otherwise be convinced of the liberal cause.
Because I'm not sure that it's possible to come up with a slogan that isn't read badly by opponents. If you have examples, I'd love to see 'em.
The slogan does not make me anxious. I know what it "really" means, and as I stated previously I am 100% in support of that message. I am frustrated because I believe there are better ways to communicate it to people in a way that is generally more persuasive.
I don't think it "hypothetically" harms the cause, I believe that it does. I only need speak to my more traditional extended family members, who will read slogans like this and react in a negative way, even though I know they could be convinced otherwise. Does it suck that they can't "read behind the lines" with slogans like this? Yeah. But public messaging is hard, and just amplifying existing messages won't solve that problem.
Lastly, "I'm not sure that it's possible to come up with a slogan that isn't read badly by opponents" seems like kind of a cop-out. Of course it's impossible to say something someone will take issue with. Communicating messages isn't an all-or-nothing game, what I am saying is I think people need to do a better job changing minds than they are now.
I guess what I'm saying is "out of the closets into the streets" probably didn't convince anyone that gay people were not pedophiles coming out into the streets to molest their children when it was being chanted by "rioters" in 1969. But the people who were inspired by that slogan and came out to their families and friends... that convinced a lot of people.
Slogans aren't always about converting other people to join your cause, they can be about convincing the already converted to act on their beliefs.
"I love ny, not nj" is an anti nj statement.
I literally pray for better.