His statements contradict though. "If the wife wants to friend the dead husband, I don't think it's so important 'what he would have wanted.'" That goes completely against the idea of a will, which is exactly to do what he would have wanted.

Yes the OP mentioned a Will, but misunderstands the purpose of the Will supported by:

>If the wife wants to friend the dead husband, I don't think it's so important "what he would have wanted."

A Will doesn't mean ignore the husbands wishes in favor of the wife/heirs, it means who ever is executor, wife or not, must comply with what the husband dictates.

Actually, they suggested that the executor's "wishes" should be followed, suggesting a fundamental misunderstanding of what a will is.