Ruby really isn't designed for building complex concurrent systems. Erlang/OTP is designed specifically for that.
When I need to build something that recovers from failures in Rails, it means code that is littered with try/catch statements. I recently wrote a basic caching system in Elixir for a project at work. There are plenty of ways for it to fail, and I handle none of those situations. I let it crash, bring it down gracefully, and then bring it back up in a healthy state. You can write truly fault-tolerant programs on top of a very powerful and stable VM.