Nothing you said here is a counter argument to either the comment you replied to or the linked post.
> All these women that are being talked about as statistics are real people.
Nobody denies that. However, once you say that there's not enough "equality" of engineers, you invoke statistics.
> I think the human aspect of all this is sorely missing on HN.
Think of those poor talented engineers denied a place of work because of "gender quotas"! These engineers have dreams and passions. They aren't just statistics!
See how this works?
> I've learned that it's not us vs them.
Except that's exactly the tactics used by SJWs.
> I've learned that political correctness and reverse-racism/sexism are definitely not a greater problem than sexism and racism themselves.
Reverse sexism is exactly the same problem as sexism.