Point is, it is possible to change those consumption patterns. Quoting from your example:
* heating: 67°F should be fine in winter. replace by natural gas where possible. invest in appropriate insulation and ventilation. Look at how much of northern Europe does it.
* air conditioning: use less and more recent airco. 76-77°F should be fine in summer.
* pool heater? just switch it off, or at the very least switch to a more efficient source of heating
* cut the second fridge in the garage, or at the very least, replace it with something efficient
* use an efficient freezer
* Check what machines have to be always on. Use something efficient for the things that really have to be always on.
I'm quite sure something along these lines would have cut more than 2/3 of the electricity consumption of this average American household.
It is physically possible to make these changes. I concede that it would not be easy to convince the people to actually make changes in this direction, but it can be done!