In my experience women in tech get opportunities thrown at them simply due to desperation of companies to meet the prevailing mantra of 'must have more women in tech'. That's not to say that the women I've met are any better or worse than the men, but it does seem that all else being equal women manage to avoid the crappier jobs and often get put on prestige projects.
If I were starting again I wouldn't go into tech - I'd go into an area where there's more women!