There are two very good reasons to oppose a hardfork, and then a bunch more besides. I think that I would say the best reason to oppose a hardfork is to protect yourself against political manipulation. The whole point of Bitcoin is that it's money that nobody controls. Hardforks introduce decision points that people can have control over, and they can use political leverage to get things out of the hardfork that you may not like. Especially if the ecosystem becomes accustomed to hardforks, it gets a lot easier to introduce changes which are supported by popular opinion. As we know from Trump, popular opinion is not always what you want to be directing your future.
There's also a fantastic non-political reason, which is compatibility. As we know from IE6, Windows XP, outdated versions of Flash, IPv4, and lots of other things in software history, industry wide upgrades take a loooong time. When you hardfork Bitcoin, you are introducing a change that is only successful if 100% of people upgrade. That's a really high bar. If someone or some company does not realize that there's been a hardfork, they are sitting on an old, vulnerable chain and don't realize it. Everyone who doesn't upgrade is vulnerable to accepting payments that they think are worth 1 btc, when they are actually worth 1 btc-old, and btc-old may have a dollar value that's only a few percent of the btc price.
When you hardfork, you force everyone in the ecosystem to upgrade. This causes a lot of friction, breaks compatibility with existing software, and really reduces the value of your ecosystem substantially because you lose a lot of legacy code and hardware and systems that may no longer be compatible with the post-hardfork chain.
As for recommendations, honestly there's not much I can do to help. All the major places that I know of have been overrun by people who think they know a lot more than they actually know. There's also a lot of brigading in general, though I think the fundamental problem right now is an ecosystem-wide Dunning-Kruger effect, and I think it'll blow over once the ICO mania matures more.
If you really want some good stuff, look for anything posted to a mailing list or to IRC by Greg Maxwell. While his reddit comments are often petty, he's probably the most intelligent person in blockchain today. Take everything he says with a grain of salt, but even if you don't like him you will learn a LOT by reading everything he's posted over the past 2-5 years. Other names worth following (not a complete list, sorry to anyone I miss) would be Pieter Wuille, Peter Todd, Luke Dashjr, Eric Lombroso.