Because men love electronics projects and women love keeping a tidy house and ruining their dreams, am I right?
I don't think this is accurate. Personally, I've had a lot of trouble finding people of either gender who are interested in electronics.
I might be overstepping here, but it sounds like maybe you should talk to you wife and see what can be done to minimize the negative externalities caused by your hobby? It's hard to imagine she would actually want to ruin your dreams. I don't have a wife, but I know my girlfriend became a lot more supportive once I started keeping half-finished projects in the spare bedroom, and started putting in an effort to clean up my projects a bit more before letting them out. Just my $0.02 obviously.