Semantic games aside, this is a classic illegal maneuver in corporate law -- I think the term is "freezeout merger."
It works like this: Alex, Beth, and Casey each own 1/3 of FooCo. So Alex and Beth get together and, by a 66% vote, agree to sell the assets of FooCo to BarCo for $1. BarCo just happens to be owned by Alex and Beth without Casey.
It's a nice move for Alex and Beth, right? They just each increased their net worth by 50% with a simple legal formality. In fact, if you think about it, this maneuver is always a rational transaction for the majority shareholders in any corporation. Which is why it's illegal -- otherwise it breaks the game.
So, what do you think Alex and Beth say in this scenario if they're called on it? They say exactly what you said here: Casey didn't lose anything! She still has 1/3 ownership of FooCo, plus she got her 1/3 of the $1 paid from BarCo, fair and square. No harm, no foul.
(No kidding, I've actually had the lawyer for a company that did this to my client try to make this argument across a conference table. Then the lawyer tries to pretend no one has ever had that idea before. Like this wasn't thought of and dealt with about 5 minutes after the first minority shareholder existed.)
A court, and the rest of the world, will find this argument ridiculous. The obvious intention and impact of Alex and Beth's action was to take net worth (in real world terms) from Casey and award it to themselves. They can't avoid that by playing clever games with the labels.
Likewise, the obvious intention and impact of the Ethereum shareholders' actions was to take net worth (in real world terms) from the DAO hacker and award it to themselves.
Play all the games you want with the words, that's what happened. And that's the takeaway: in the law, the minority has protection from the majority. In Ethereum, the majority shareholders rule, and if they decide you don't deserve to have ownership, they can vote to take it for themselves.
It's potentially rational to decide you like your chances better with the majority-shareholder-vote-is-law system than the legal system in your jurisdiction. (If you live in the US or a similar jurisdiction then I disagree, but it's an interesting argument anyway.) But trying to pretend no one lost anything from the hard fork just doesn't fly.