Is this really a problem?
I think that some of these lines of thought, while are valid points to justify and individual problem, tend to fall into a slippery slop that tends to beleving that a true (ideal) society is all greyed out with everyone in the same mold: genderless, opinionless, etc...
You have completely missed my point. The point is that everyone should have opportunity if they want to do something and are capable of it, not some kind of homogenization. Women are currently actively pushed away from the industry. If women don't want to be in tech, that's fine, the issue is that women that do get pushed away, discriminated against, or never get the opportunity to learn they are interested in it.
There is no attempt to make everyone the same - the attempt is to try and allow everyone to embrace their own differences - to give everyone the same opportunities.