Maybe an IOCTL to put a pipe into "packet mode" in which rather than just reading/writing raw bytes you send/receive Type-Length-Value packets... If you put your pipe in packet mode, and the other end then reads or writes without enabling packet mode, the kernel can send a control message to you saying "other end doesn't support packet mode" and then you can send/receive data in your default format. Whereas, if both ends enter packet mode before reading/writing, then the kernel sends a control message to one end saying "packet mode negotiated", and which triggers the two ends to exchange further control messages to negotiate a data format, before actually sending the data. (This implies pipes must be made bidirectional, at least for control packets.)