> I like hearing my music at loud volumes, as everyone does.
I don't think this is true. A lot of people like going to the kinds of events that have loud music, but I've seen a lot of people who don't like the volume. One obvious example: most of the weddings I've been to recently turn into dance parties, and the volume creeps its way up and up. As this happens, a lot of the guests start moving farther from the speakers, off the dance floor, and eventually out of the room. Dancing: lots of fun. Ear-splitting volume: not necessarily.
At my wedding, we picked a great band and kept the music at a comfortable level, and most of the guests danced the whole time and even the non-dancing guests clustered around the dance floor. I can't prove causation, but I bet the tolerable volume had a lot to do with it.
So maybe the real solution is for people to start trying to figure out why the norm for concerts is to have the volume painfully loud. It's possible that guests just might enjoy them more with quieter music.