"incredibly serious allegations" -- Sexual advances (flirting, being assertive) are nothing to be ashamed of. It's when you go with the "grab 'em by the pussy" mentality that it seems to get rapey. Make the dude out to be Cosby for views, though, Pando. Keep on pandorin'.
When it's someone who is pitching you, flirting and making sexual advances is something to be ashamed of.