You have gotten a sign wrong here in your sensor readings where arrogance and hostility are. Someone gives you a present that comes with a condition. You either take it, or you leave it. But calling the donor "arrogant and hostile" because you don't like a condition just got you uninvited from all future gift exchange parties.
Back then when people still knew what patches were, the whole post of the OP would have been a one liner:
[x] send patches or stfu