The "unsafe code" problem comes mostly from backpointers. If you have a data structure with a doubly linked list, and the forward pointer and backpointer are both pure references and can't be null, no order of destruction is strictly valid. You can't create, destroy, or manipulate a doubly linked list or a tree with backpointers in safe Rust. That's a problem.
Maybe forward pointer/backpointer pairs need to be a language level concept. The compiler needs to know that the forward pointer and the backpointer are in a relationship. The pair needs to be manipulated as a unit. You have to have mutable ownership of both references to manipulate either. The borrow checker and destructor ordering need to understand this.