> In western countries, those things are "free" because we collectively pay for them.
Are you implying that somewhere else, these things are free without someone paying for them?
> I can't imagine having to pay for child birth.
Really? Should raising a child be free then too? Should everything be "free"? How does that work?
Except for rare circumstances, when someone gets pregnant, they choose to get pregnant. It may not be the desired outcome, but if you choose to play with fire, you're just ignorant if you think you can't get burned. It's a proactive choice. So if you don't have the means to deliver the baby (and subsequently raise the child in a positive environment), why did you choose to get pregnant and have the child? Why should everyone else be on the hook for your mistake? Regardless of who pays, children are expensive. Should we really reward people (and yes, that's what the system currently does) who want to make irresponsible decisions and have children they can't afford (in both time and money)?
Perhaps you're really pushing for full socialism? Sounds great! How's that working out in Venezuela?
> If I have to fight all the time for basic things, then yes, I'll start cheating the system
Are you "fighting" to pay your taxes? Are you "fighting" to pay your insurance premiums? We're not talking about a struggle to find the best daycare for your kid; we're talking about paying into a system (whether through the government or an insurance provider) that redistributes wealth from those that can pay to those who "can't", but it only works when people don't abuse the system. And if you have the ability to work, you should be contributing rather than "cheating the system". Otherwise, you're just trying to justify getting something for nothing.