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I'm a bit the same. Never committing fully. It doesn't have to be immediate in today's age, but I want to be better at not waiting until the last minute to say I wont come. I know how annoying that is when I'm the one taking initiative to a get-together.

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The key is being able to respond promptly and being committed to the answer one has given which aligns with the point you raise on timeliness. There are two discourtesies:

1) Not providing a committed answer until the last minute; and 2) Reneging on a previous commitment, particularly at the last moment.

Responding promptly is important if only to say, "I cannot commit at the moment but I will let you know for definite by [date]", where date is sufficiently in advance of the event in question.

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