In the second, the legal line is not crossed. It may be crossed at some point by an adult person that can bear responsibility for his actions.
I would not work with both; I can understand how can one not be a hypocrite by choosing to work with the latter and not the former, but not the other way around.
Is it the right moral choice to protect the privacy of a cheater? Maybe, I don't know, I'm struggling to answer that to myself, let alone judge others.