I think WordPress and php guys default to MySQL.
I think python and Django guys end up defaulting to Postgres.
Rails and node.js I am less sure what the default is, maybe mongodb?
I don't think either camp has really changed since Oracle came along. A lot of momentum in different stacks.
For Node, well, it varies, but at least once upon a time, people used to talk about the "MEAN" stack (MongoDB, Express, Angular, Node) - MongoDB and Node are certainly often used together.
[1] Not MySQL - edited as per the below correction.
Oracle's control over MySQL and the shift towards Open Core over FOSS fundamentals has pushed some companies to use the compatible MariaDB option over it. Most Linux distros use MariaDB by default now, meaning more LAMP stacks by default having MariaDB over Oracle's MySQL.
I'm certainly not saying MariaDB is taking over MySQL, just the trend I've seen being a RHEL Sys Admin.
Now the product's data model is mostly settled I am flipping over to regular fields, array types, and higher normal forms.
Being able to do all this without changing DB backend has been a real boon, far less time bogged down in ops = far more time to create customer value.
I have stored procedures doing a bunch of stuff and returning a nicely formatted JSON object that makes the job of the application code a lot easier.
One thing I dislike is that the friction for initial development and prototyping is a little too high.
You have to have scripts lying around to re-create the functions when you change it during dev.
And logging/debugging/etc is harder and not as flexible.
# Find a row by JSON property value
select * from person where details->>'name' ilike '%james%'
# check for property existence
select * from person where details ? 'is_hidden'
# Override a single property in a JSON field -
update person set details = details || '{"phone":"911"}'
# Alt increment existing value
update person set details = jsonb_set(details, '{views}', (details->'views')+1)
More examples at https://www.postgresql.org/docs/current/static/functions-jso...I used to use Mongo along side the PG for the JSON store but now am back all on PG with this JSONB type.
The json support is amazing. It's really incredible.