We can/should help those in need and in fact we do help those in need, but don't put the blame on us for those people grave conditions in the first place.
For instance we should have known that if we don't consider Turkey as a partner, that they will at some point say "x you" and look for support from others. We could've also considered how we can take care of the refugees instead of dropping them on weaker governments. And we could have also considered how to treat Greece like a part of our community instead of sucking them more and more dry, which leaves all other fringe EU countries wondering how they will be treated if they ever get weaker.
- Turkey brought their legal institutions to the modern times
- that Turkey showed more respect for democratic and humanistic principles
- that Turkey respected more the civil rights of their citizens
- that Turkey respected their ethnic minorities (like the Kurds)
- Turkey recognized a member of the EU as an actual country (Cyprus).
And then, after Turkey failed yet, and yet again to address all those problems and we told them patiently yet again, that they needed to address those problems and they still didn't, they decided they are not going to really try and reverted the little work they had done.
And you come and blame the EU for wanting Turkey to become a country that actually respects the right of its own citizens.
How could we be so heartless, right?
Yes. You still haven't managed to think about what's our fault and why yet, though.