Shyness is a mental disorder and a severe disadvantage.
No, and not always.
E.g. from my experience, many intelligent and beautiful women prefer the shy type over the boastful sales person becuase it signals you are a thinker and that you take nothing for granted. In that context, is shyness really a disadvantange?
Many employers also think like that.
But can shyness be a sign of a certain degree of imaturity? I think so, more than I subscribe to the idea it's a disorder.
Do you suffer from it and beat yourself up because of your shyness? Then it's a problem, perhaps a small issue with your self-esteem. It can be fixed though. Just like almost anyone can learn math, almost all mental hickups can be fixed, if you have an interest in fixing them.
You can be shy and be confident and aggressive in how you think and live your life.
Some women will be attracted to shy men because they are just less of a hurdle to flirt with.
There are trends those days, maybe due to feminism, where women are taking more initiative in dating. Women are selectors by definition, so if we let them choose, it might be simpler and just better.
Also women can end up hurt and bored by alpha males, and they will end up seeking simpler relationships.
But we should give most alpha males a break, I think. They're as insecure as you are, probably. Most alpha males I know are quite fun to be around. You get to stand in line outside of clubs less.
Always try to know at least an alpha male.
I don't have anything against alphas, I'm just saying some women might prefer a relationship that is less traditional and not oriented towards some masculine ideal. We are not hunter gatherer anymore.
> They're as insecure as you are, probably.
I don't really give a damn. They are millions ways to be dominant.
> You get to stand in line outside of clubs less.
Many women don't like to go to clubs or don't really care to enjoy those kind of privileges.
> Always try to know at least an alpha male.
Actually as a woman, being around an alpha male might actually prevent you from being approached by potential male partners. Unless you are determined to get your alpha male.
I don't really buy into the whole alpha male thing anyway, which revolves around the winner/loser pragma, which is too cliched for modern times. Women yell about the whole patriarchy thing, I don't really believe in it, but I've heard a lot about groups of women who just settle for beta people because they are happy with it. So again, generalities.
Shyness to me signals curiosity, a person with a healthy dose of undecisiveness, someone still learning. It's attractive to be in a learning or growing phase.
Me, personally, when it comes to women, I like them medium-shy.
Yet they do exist, which suggests that actually it isn't some huge disadvantage, or that it has compensating advantages.
I'm sorry if someone was offended by my previous comment, that was not my intent.