Things like elevators and hallways are really pretty basic, and not subject to choice. But then, many people choose to live in detached houses so they don't have to rely on cooperating with neighbors for anything (I guess there are always shared civic resources, like water/sewer/streets, but you get the idea).
I honestly don't know when it comes to walls. I've asked at a bunch of places and the answer seems to be a variant of "they're normal, I guess?"
Your neighbors having a small house party with ~10 people over, a few drinks, some music is one thing. It's when it becomes very big and/or intoxicated event that it becomes a huge pain.
People barfing in the stairwells, physically running into the walls, ringing the neighbor's doorbell at 2am because they can't figure out where they're going (or need to lean on it to keep from collapsing). My last apartment was next to a perpetual AirBnB where these kind of things were sometimes a problem (probably < 5 % of the tenants, but 1 out of 20 nights of noise at all hours still sucks)
My current apartment does not have these issues. I still have the sirens and motorcycles of a very busy street to deal with, but earplugs deal with that well enough to leave the windows open at night.