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You've got to be kidding me. If you bring a life into this world you don't have the right to regret it anymore. You must feed and clothe that child, and give them the best upbringing that you can. It's not their fault you didn't understand fully what you were getting into. That's your fault not theirs. Get over your regret, it's only going to make your life miserable.

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you don't have the right to regret it anymore

Good advice! Obviously the best way to deal with negative feelings is to invalidate their existence by making them verboten and immoral thoughtcrimes, and then burying them waaaay down deep where hopefully no one notices them.

What could go wrong?

Yea but telling your kid you regret them or wish you aborted them is awful as well.

Uhh, where on earth did you get the idea that these women were telling their kids how they feel? That isn't even intimating at in the article.

Strawman much?

I think you're protesting against the human condition here. Nobody knows what they're getting into, nor is one's emotional response entirely under one's control. Don't take it out on the kids, to be sure, but parenthood is a huge and complicated experience.

Your username is very apt here. Whether we agree or disagree with the sentiments expressed by the parents represented in the article, the Overton Window will inevitably be shifting or at the very least expanding.

Speaking with various stay-at-home parents, the sentiment expressed in the article is sometimes faintly or fleetingly touched upon through half-jokes or stories. The strength of the signal could be questioned, but may be perfectly normal if the actual incidence rate is extremely low.

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