I think if you can work on accepting this fact of "primate-ness" that we have, and look not just at your work relationships, but also your personal relationships to see how you are at times either dominant or submissive, you will begin to see how accepting a "subordinate" role not only benefits you (with a paycheck), but also benefits the person "above" you (your manager who gets to feel dominant), and the people who depend on you (family and friends who care about you, they can see you holding down a job).
This quote by Robert Heinlein springs to mind:
"A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects."
My solution? I started my own company 10 years ago and have been running it ever since.