How I Kicked My Smartphone Addiction, and Never Looked Back
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Buying too much stuff? Cancel amazon prime, throw away everything you own, go full digital nomad and spend the rest of your life moving from airbnb to airbnb so you can never own more than you can carry.
On your smartphone too much? Man up! Don't just turn off notifications, delete the apps completely! Throw away your smartphone!
Social media destroying your life? Delete it all, it's the only way!
If you're really addicted to something I think it will take more than just these articles to help you, if not then you surely you can 'man up' enough to control yourself?
Time was I'd come home, crack open a beer, make/order dinner, open a beer, eat dinner, open a beer, watch tv, open a beer. I knew it wasn't good for me but I enjoyed it at the time and didn't really care about the ramifications. At least, I didn't care enough to stop.
After a particularly uncomfortable combination of beer and Mexican food, however, my system was so shocked that I swore off drinking entirely, at least until I got better.
After a few weeks I had my first sip of alcohol again and realized I didn't actually enjoy it: I was mostly drinking out of inertia.
I rarely drink now. If my mother is in town I can guzzle a bottle of wine over dinner and then stay dry for weeks without wanting even a sip of sake.
The problem was never the alcohol to me. The problem was the habit. I imagine the same for smartphone addiction (or, perhaps, "compulsive use"): the problem is not the smartphone - it's the habit.
They described basically what you've said. We take the actions and get the tiny reward and our brain gets a little jolt of there you did it but when it comes right down to it we don't actually enjoy the activity. More importantly, we're no more satisfied when we finish the activity than we were when we started, we just do it because we've become conditioned to.
I suppose a more concrete source would be the Extra Credits video on Skinner Boxes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tWtvrPTbQ_c
Then you put in another quarter...
That being said, I do enjoy HN yet I rarely if ever comment on reddit or Facebook. It's really the community that keeps me here.
Now I'm one of those people that does spend too much time refreshing my smartphone. It's worse.
So maybe we were on to something back then.
Having a TV by itself can be good, so you can watch a movie at home with friends (preferably served by a mediaPC). It's cable/network TV, stuffed with ads and mostly worthless shows, that's the real time-waster. (And even if there's worthwhile shows in there somewhere, they're aired at inconvenient times, you actually have to watch them as they air (without spending extra money to rent a DVR), and you can't pause or rewind them (again without a DVR rental). The whole scheme is archaic and ridiculous and inefficient.
Finally, a big factor is cost (except with OTA). The TV itself is pretty cheap these days unless you get some big 60" quantum-dot display or something. A simple 32" TV can be had for just over $100 now, and a 40" for around $200. These are one-time costs. But cable TV can easily cost you over $100 every month, or over $1200/year. And for what? So you can watch ugly, over-compressed video, loaded with loud commercials, that you have no ability to control when you watch, or pause or rewind?
Digital additions can be just as strong even without the external chemical influence.
Just look at the other comments here, how does only using your kindle on flights and buying more hardbacks have anything to do with smartphone addiction? Unless we're talking about addiction to screens, or all things electronic, which seems a bit broad.
'If you must, carry a dumbphone' - Is ideal solution to addiction really to aim at not being contactable at all?
The idea is you can still get in touch with anyone at any time, and anyone can get in touch with you. You simply have a tiny effort filter so you don't see what everyone had for lunch etc.
It's like storing cookies in the kitchen instead of having a bowl of them next to you as your reading this. Most people can have cookies in the house without eating them right now. Few people I know can sit next to such a bowl for hours without eating them.
I installed it as a way to play with my gf, and I didn't realize I joined the (globally and locally) losing team, green, to be on her team. In about 11 days since installing it, I've advanced to just before level 7, the level before the last (level 8) with significant powerups. By contrast, my gf reached that level after about a month and a half of play. In these last 11 days, I've tracked around 70 to 80 km (~47 mi.) of walking and I've lost about 3 lbs.
While some of that is great for my health (been trying to slim down), I had become quite anxious. Being on the losing team (by a factor of two in terms of control of portals and area in the city, it was a factor of ten the day I started), I had literally become paranoid throughout the day that any moment, a notification would come in that the portals I controlled would come under attack, and I would have to defend them. Given we were on the losing team and the winning team had more resources, it was a challenging but exciting fight. A few of the advanced green players had taken out time to give me rare items when they observed my advance.
I'd been thinking of just stopping thus despite how much fun it was and how much I love walking and seeing my city in general. When I saw this article this morning, I kid you not; sure it was kind of cheesy, but it triggered a few minutes of introspection and I eventually decided to uninstall the app for now.
So, no, I'm probably not going to turn off all notifications and be crazy like the author (I have ig notifications off for likes and don't get frequent notifications in general), but at least for me, articles that at least raise the awareness of such issues do at least push some people ever so slightly in the right direction. It actually did it for me.
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I'm starting to think it's not a coincidence that "everything in moderation" still applies.
https://twitter.com/alexwoodcreates/status/83986099819865702...
And that's not a knock. It's totally okay to be on twitter. The problem isn't too much social media, it's [anything] taking priority over more important stuff in your life. At least my $0.02.
> It’s about finding balance. I became conscious of what matters to me, in my life. My smartphone is still a part of it, but it’s no longer the boss.
The problem is that 'boring' solutions like these that actually work aren't exciting enough to make it to the top of a voting system like HN or reddit have. So we only get the big dramatic articles because those tickle the lizard part of our brains that say "omg upvote this!" The more calm and rational side of us is far too slow moving and less easily excited to make that effort for more 'boring' articles. Its like we're all living in Kahneman's thinking 'fast' world now.
I sometimes wonder what it'll be like for the kids growing up today who will know nothing but targeted ads, customized news, clickbait articles, and everyone gaming the 'attention economy.' Will they be better or worse off than those who grew up before those things. Endless 'fast' thinking and constant instant gratification may come with a price in the long run.
2. If you must, carry a dumbphone.
3. Keep that off except when necessary.
4. If you must have a device, consider either an ultralight laptop (vastly preferable: they are in fact generative devices) or a tablet, with severely pruned apps, and no G4 / cellular internet (WiFi only).
I'm increasingly a fan of paper-based records and tracking systems -- index cards, etc. For books and research, online has certain advantages, largely bulk and weight -- I can carey a fairly formidable library in the palm of my hand, though the access, interface, and organisation leave much to be desired.
I'm inclined to say there is no generally acceptable mobile device or OS presently, though I somewhat favour iOS over Android for a better privacy and surveillance environment. Whatever CyanogenMod calls itself this week might be slightly favourable. What I'd prefer is a generally tablet/folio form-factor (e.g., non-wired, non-integral keyboard, lapable or tablet mode, and no, Windows Surface doesn't work either, though it's a fair start -- rubber keyboards aren't acceptable), but running a Real Operating System (e.g., Linux). I'm keeping an eye on what's coming from Ubuntu, though without much hope.
Feel so much better now I'm disconnected and back in the driving seat.
One of my hobbies is photography, and lately all I've wanted to do is shoot film. My big DSLRs can do some amazing things, but there's something about being limited to between 12 and 36 images, advancing the film by hand, controlling every aspect of the exposure, and standing at my kitchen sink for half an hour developing each roll that makes rattling off a thousand images in a blink then sitting in front of yet another screen a lot less appealing. I'm already sitting at a computer for 40 or more hours per week, why add another if I don't have to?
RMS, Cliff Stoll, Thompson's "Trusting Trust", Peter G. Neumann. Hyman G. Rickover, if you want to look at nuclear power.
[0]: https://www.mobileread.com/forums/showthread.php?t=222123
If you can find a Bluetooth keyboard your Kobo will talk to, I'd strongly recommend it, and please tell me your experiences.
In theory, this is a very attractive system, and in terms of the hardware and physical aspects, it is. The vendor support, OS, applications, and durability, however, are not.
1. Samsung locks down the Tab A hard, and I've been unable to root or ROM it. I'd like to do both. Given other direct and indirect experiences with Samsung, my advice is to steer clear of the company and its products for the next decade or two. It simply cannot execute and doesn't care about customer experience.
2. The Logitech mouse/case is attractive, and the form factor is excellent. But the keyboard itself is shedding keys and Logitec claims it has no viable replacement (that is: the keyboard model is hard-paired with this specific device, and discontinued). That after about six weeks of absolutely failing to comprehend the problem at hand, and pretty much straight-up lying about the problem. I've an as-yet-untested promise for a refund should I find a viable replacement keyboard, but cannot find anything that is the same lap-stable folio-type case-keyboard combination.
There are some very bad key placements - the "app" key is between "fn" and "alt", so I hit that all the fucking time and dive fully out of my current state. The back-navigation key is combined with the <esc> key. Guess what happens when I am editing files under vim in an SSH session (the ConnectBot app fails to remap back-nav to escape, Termux, praise be the gods, does this).
With Termux, and more significantly, Termux-API installed, the system is finally only mostly annoying as opposed to being completely annoying. I've just posted an HN submission on the State of User State, which addresses numerous platforms, Android amongst them. The state is abysmal. See that for more info.
If this were:
1. A Linux device.
2. With a usable pointer (not a touchscreen).
3. And a full keyboard.
4. And Linux apps.
... I'd be somewhat happier. Though with the state of "all system resources and then some" minimum operating requirements for Any Browser Application these days, I suspect I'd find the system still unusable. I know that browsing on a 4 GB laptop (my previous daily driver) was generally also abysmal.
I'm feeling my years.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/IVSO-Lenovo-YOGA-10-1-Inch-Keyboard...
After 30+ years in IT, I'm turning into a Luddite.
Over the last couple of years, if the batteries dead in my Sena, oh well. Getting lost is kind of the point :D
I've blocked ALL comments, except for essentially Hacker News, in all of my browsers.
I disabled all notifications on my phone, except for actual incoming phone calls.
All sounds are disabled, in fact the phone runs on mute permanently.
The phone gets plugged in a couple hours before bed time, in the other room. I don't check anything on the phone, until I get to work.
Even the Kindle has been relegated to be ONLY for flights. I've bought tons of hardcover novels in the last two years.
I don't think getting rid of smart phones is necessary, just much better management. They've definitely saved my ass in more ways than one.
What is technology to you?
Is it the possibility of notifications to pop up while reading on a phone/tablet?
Books is also a technology. I honestly don't see the difference other than how it displays letters.
Physical books give me that total disconnect from the outside world.
Almost all the news and ground-breaking journalism I read today is from the web rather than print. The combination of editorialized aggregators like Longform/Aldaily with the portability of e-readers, I now read more long-form articles today than in previous years because I don't have to sift through plethora of sources to find those high quality articles worth reading. Now, I can just preview an interesting article during the day, send it to my Kindle, and then read it later before I go to bed, on a device that's dedicated to the reading experience. I'll also add the consistency of the layout means the focus is on the story rather than the editorial design.
Now with respect to books, a good portion of us live in smaller spaces like condos/apartments. Not having to store tons of books on shelves is a great way on saving space. Of course, I could borrow from the library, but I enjoy sometimes re-reading parts of books or going back to important points I highlighted. And while I enjoy the aesthetic presentation of books in a home, it's very dependent on space.
Lastly, the fact that I can shop on my device was a real game changer. Like it's wonderful when an author cites another book, or you just have an inclination to read a certain topic, and you can get it instantly and keep feeding the fascination. Like I remember last January, I read more books in that one month on my Kindle (I think it was 12 books) than I remember ever achieving in previous years.
Anyways, I'm certainly a proponent of removing oneself from digital devices a few hours a day, but I don't see e-readers as following into the same category as say, laptops/smartphones/tablets, which have far more versatile applications that can lead a person to be distracted.
It'd be different if these stupid companies would make color e-ink display readers, because then your argument would be very apt. But as it is, you're completely ignoring the technical detail of the backlit screen that modern e-readers all use.
Has no keyboard. Manual buttons. No touchscreen.
Terrible for note-taking.
But easy, easy on the eyes.
My approach to this was to uninstall all "problematic" apps, especially Twitter. Then I used my iPhone's Restrictions settings to hide Safari, and to prevent the installation of new apps. I then asked a friend to set a passcode on "Restrictions" so that I was unable to reinstall Safari, Twitter or anything else even if I wanted to.
After a few weeks, I got hold of the passcode again (to install something "essential" :)) but I have never since reinstalled Safari or Twitter. The habit was broken. Result: no longer do I walk down the street browsing the news, nor do I find myself staying up too late browsing in bed.
It's been a positive change for me.
After a month I felt like I did before I started. I felt fine, but nothing special. I didn't feel bad before I started, but people described how incredible it made them feel and it didn't do that for me at all. I felt the same. The first day of February I had teriyaki chicken for lunch and had a snack of M&Ms. I felt completely the same.
I also tried going vegan before and gluten free (both for time periods shorter than a month), and neither did anything either. I get that all these things may be healthier, but they didn't make me feel any better.
Reading this guys account, I have a hard time believing that using my phone less would make me feel much better either. That said, I have been turning more notifications off as I do agree that there is very little that justifies interrupting what I'm doing to look at that app.
The gluten free diet isn't likely to help you at all unless you have a problem with gluten. Gluten-free foods are NOT healthier (in fact, quite possible the opposite, to a small extent, according to recent research). The only reason to eat GF food is because you have Crohn's disease or some other gluten intolerance, which affects I believe about 5% of the population or so. If you don't have any of these problems, then stick with gluten.
Vegan diets are not healthier. The main reason people adopt these is because they don't believe animals should be used for food, including animal products (eggs, milk, cheese, etc.). It's not for health. Of course, too many eggs isn't healthy either, so you might get some side-effect here, depending on what animal products you were eating before and how much, but this isn't the goal of veganism, it's all about an extreme view of using animals and their products as human food. If you think that meat is bad for you (which again isn't scientifically supported; we're omnivores), you can always just adopt a vegetarian diet. Or, if you think you're eating too much red meat (which is a common problem with Americans), you can always just eat less of it, instead of adopting an extreme diet.
It sounds to me like you're young (under 30) and healthy, so of course you're not going to notice any difference with various diets unless they're cutting out something you really need or not supplying you enough calories.
Otherwise, I just keep notifications off for most things other than work email and leave my phone on silent for the vast majority of the time. I still get calls and messages but I'm not constantly being pulled away from what I'm doing because my phone is beeping again.
As an ADHD-type person, it's one of many ways I've found to reduce distraction and interruption when I need or want to be doing something else. I do leave a charger at my bedside (and my desk, and my car, etc...basically anywhere I plan to be sitting for more than an hour at a time). This is probably just a throwback to the early smartphone days when you needed to keep your device topped off whenever possible since you never knew when you might need to (gasp) use it and kill the battery in a few hours. Not really an issue nowadays but the habit remains. Still, silent/quiet hours make a big difference.
I keep phone chargers at work and by the bed, but I've got an old phone that I don't trust to wake me up. At night, Twilight and silent mode mean I'm not having my sleep delayed or interrupted. During the day, texts and calls get vibrate, but everything else just gets a status bar icon. My news apps are slow to change (BBC) and social media only gets opened in browser via links. Problem solved.
For Google Maps, you instead buy a paper map, and then navigate with that unfolded while you're driving. Easy.
/s
And I like Lyft a lot. It'd be a pain to get rid of that.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Traffic_message_channel
Phones are pretty good at nav but I still really like having a standalone GPS.
For example when taking the train, I got used to obsessively checking transit apps to see exactly how late I would be at the next stop, how much time I would have to transfer, what time I would be home, etc. If you think about it, this introduces stress (train is delayed, will I catch my bus?) that is almost never worth it. 9 out of 10 times half an hour delay is perfectly fine, and in the transfer time you can simply walk around a bit, contemplate, get a snack, etc.
With maps I have the same thing, sure it's nice to never take a wrong turn, but on the other hand it's usually not so bad and it can even bring you to interesting places. Asking instructions is usually not much of a problem either, and neither is reading a paper map, or simply jotting down some reference points for yourself before you leave. I used to do this all the time when taking the car back when Google Maps didn't even exist, and I usually managed just fine.
There's one exception though, which is driving in an unknown city. I absolutely hate that, and I would not want to miss GPS for that, the opportunities of getting lost are simply too high, and the stress of navigating a city by car having no idea where to go is just too much for me. That said, cars and big cities don't go together well anyway...
- Not delegating the responsibility of knowing your way externally (Maps) you get a better sense of location on your own city that builds up in time.
- You also improve your spatial memory and ability to solve location problems. As time goes by you need less information to figure out the path problem. E.g. instead of solving A -> B and knowing C -> B where C is near A you just ask A -> C.
- In unknown locations you actually talk to people and it's not very difficult to solve your problem using that
- You also can always use G Maps on your desktop and take notes or memorize the path, it surprisingly works well and has a great positive effect on your brain. I guess that's one thing we are optimized for.
http://store.randmcnally.com/thomas-brothers/thomas-guides.h...
1.) Great for calling and texting. 2.) Useful in a good way for email. 3.) Not enough apps available to be annoying.
I might consider switching to a Pixel for this alone.
Good luck with the switch!
Alex
- Generally, don't keep social apps on the phone. Use the web versions with content blockers.
- Email: keep using gmail's importance filtering and set notifications only for 'important' messages - been doing this for years and it's mostly worked fine.
- Content blockers - find a safari content blocker that lets me block social sites at certain times, or write one myself.
- Keep using a smartwatch - I really like using my pebble to let me minimize phone use, ideally I can still do voice replies like I can on android.
But when I want to make a device do something other than the default behavior, I find that easier to do on Android. iOS has made some real leaps in this realm over the past few years and no longer do I need to jailbreak to make most of my common changes and alterations, but it's still been enough to keep me leaning toward Android.
Does nobody notice when they're writing software with features designed around user "engagement" and "retention" that they're doing a disservice to their users? If not outright building addictions?
I think a most developers do notice pieces of it, but don't connect the dots and/or rationalize it with some "mutual benefit" mental hand-waving.
Taking ethics seriously would force us to confront the idea of software built for addiction. Show us how to spot it, and remove the mental wiggle room to minimize it.
There is a set of common software practices that rise from iterating designs and throwing ideas up to A/B test that are so psychologically manipulative it would seen as downright sociopathic if it was planned from the get-go. - I'm not saying that's what's happening here, but if we can't even get rid of those, what chance do we have overall?
What good is that going to do? Software developers write software that they're told to. If you say "this is unethical and I'm not doing it", your employer will fire you on the spot and find someone else.
Also, what you're talking about is something that's far more visible to someone working at a high level, e.g. the architect. An individual developer not only has no real power to change the system design, he also has limited visibility.
Surprisingly buying an Apple Watch greatly reduce the time I spend on my phone and the stress related to where it lies on my house: I don't need to be close of it anymore and notifications are displayed as a red dot. If a notification is irrelevant* I can dismiss it on the spot without any temptation to use the phone for something else.
* I already highly curated app allowed to notify me. Only mail & chat (fb messenger, Line, etc.) apps remains.
Unfortunately it does cost money, but they regularly run promotions up to half-off on their "forever" plan.
- Remove Play Store replace with FDroid - makes it harder to find and install crappy apps like FB, Snapchat etc.
- Install AFWall+ or other firewall and make sure you disable internet access for most apps