Waiting and hoping that the person who promised to pick you up will actually do so seems annoying and nerve-wracking. "Sorry, boss, I know I'm late again, but a complete stranger was 30 minutes late picking me up today, and then decided to stop for donuts on the way to work."
I think the idea is that it's supposed to match you in real-time and give GPS updates, just like regular Uber and Lyft. That is, it's not like BlancRide in Canada (which has been struggling) where you schedule in advance, have blocks of time, etc.
> Waiting and hoping that the person who promised to pick you up will actually do so seems annoying and nerve-wracking
Unlike most carpooling services, Lyft and Uber have strong reputation mechanisms that can greatly reduce this. You can always fall back on a taxi or normal Uber for couple times a month when the driver is flaky.
"Carpool/HOV" lanes have been political toys from the start. A true carpool means more than one would-otherwise-be driver per vehicle. A minority of HOV lane users in CA have more than one licensed driver. The rest are "kidpools", "hybrids" (which, for all but the first 10-30 miles on a charge are less efficient than non-hybrids), "non-polluting vehicles" (pure electrics, CNG, fuel cell), buses, and government vehicles.
Such lanes are now as crowded as conventional lanes more often than not.
Actual trip reduction could be obtained by limiting HOV use to actual carpools (>1 licensed driver) and buses with passengers, and narrowing their hours of exclusivity a bit.
This toll plan is foolish at best and detrimental otherwise. We need incentives for car pools bad! Last count (I carpool and for fun we sometimes count cars' occupants because traffic is always a discussion) out of 46 cars we saw only 2 with multiple occupants. This is the major problem.
This will dramatically increase the throughput of the lane and will inescapably lead to an increase in usage. But the increase will naturally be capped around 20k cars per hour per lane.
To make it work, you'll need precise data about conditions far ahead and far behind. You'll also need an inescapable enforcement mechanism or the system will succumb to cheating. The good news is that very soon many cars will be covered in sensors, networked and able to implement the concept.