Look, I'm not trying to be argumentative, and I understand your doubts about the story. Really. I'm just calling attention to the way you chose to raise them. Claiming they're "absurd" as a way to present your argument that we should be skeptical is hard to take to seriously unless you're willing to say you worked on her team, or were another female engineering at Uber.
And yes, I probably escalated things talking about privilege, but I think this is a good example of how we don't always realize the ways our viewpoints affect our opinions. I personally have no basis with which to offer an opinion about the validity of the story. I welcome someone that reminds us to be skeptical because everything written was written anonymously.
And to be clear, I'm not talking about allowing anyone an opinion. I'm talking about how we discuss these things productively in public forums.