> got her salary adjusted to median position salary because she was a woman
Really?
Do you ever consider that when non-women who are given more opportunities it is because they are men? White? Tall? Are not bald? Have good teeth?
If that doesn't run through your mind, please don't suggest that anyone not a cis-male only gets there to meet the criteria of a diversity program.
> meanwhile I am below company median
The thing with medians is that half of the company will be below that point.
If everyone were on the median, then everyone is receiving precisely the same salary.