I've never experienced sexual harassment in the tech industry

I think that was the point he was trying to make? That womens perception of bad treatment because they are women, might in fact be a generic bad treatment of employees as you say. I can agree that it might be plausible in the cases where the bad treatment is coming from a higher level, and is not blatantly sexual harassment.

Bad treatment amongst co-workers on the same level will almost always be because they either don't like you or [if you're a woman] because of your gender.

Now, I have no idea if the women that are complaining about bad treatment just defaulted to "I'm getting badly treated because I'm a woman" or if they considered that they're not well liked, but it might be an important distinction to make.

I once had the CEO of a company roll his eyes at me in the middle of a meeting and say roughly "you tech people are all the same".

Did I scream discrimination or did I pass it off as the powerplay of an asshole?

I passed it off as the powerplay of an asshole.

The thing about assholes is that they're assholes. It's a part of being in the workplace and when it happens you have to think about whether or not it's worth it for you.

But when you look at everything through the lense of feminism, then he's suddenly not an asshole, but is instead a misogynist.

I once saw a woman complain that she was on a mailing list and someone said something mean to her and no one spoke up to defend her. She felt like that meant the mailing list itself was sexist.

I read her account and my thought was "if it were a male, would you expect others to defend him, or would you expect him to defend himself?".

I could go on and on, ALL OF US who have been in the workforce for any length of time have dealt with pricks. We've dealt with them as co-workers, we've dealt with them as managers, and sometimes we deal with them as subordinates, but we've all dealt with them.

That's the point the poster you were responding to was making.

men deal with a lot of bullshit in the workplace too, but when we come across it, we can't call it gender discrimination, or whatever else. We have to decide if, when, and how to defend ourselves from it.

That's the reality of the workplace, and it's the reality of women in the workplaces as well. But that doesn't make it sexist.

Straw woman!