I've heard from so many women how they tried for a few days and just got DTF (down to f*ck?) messsges they left discussed. I'm surprised any women actually say on the sites.
Unfortunately no good ideas spring to mind.
Women are DTF, but only if you're a guy who is in the top 20% of good looks. Check out our friend David (upper left hand), and notice how responsive women are: https://i.redd.it/2ci850jos81y.jpg
"Oh fuck yeah whenever you want"
"You had me at no ambition"
"Come over. Doors open."
However, when a guy who isn't in the top 20% of the gene pool opens up with those DTF lines, then women find it creepy, offensive, and turned off.
The men who send DTF messages eventually only get paired with women who are interested to receive them. With smart ML, the site is what each person wants it to be. Beyond categorizing users, perhaps you can categorize the sentiment of messages themselves using unsupervised learning on the messages and user responses.
Or maybe just a star rating for messages, Uber style. Drive everyone who wants to send DTF messages to another site.
That's key. Don't turn people (data) away - re-purpose them (it).
> The best thing about Bumble is that regardless of who I swipe right on, and who swipes right on me, I easily avoid those horrendous first Tinder messages that ask me for threesomes or whether I like dragons, and if I do, whether I want “these balls dragon” across my face
They solve this problem by putting up barriers to entry, and aggressively banning people.
You either wait for months to get on the app, or pay a bunch of money to skip the line.
And if you behave badly, well there goes your 150$ yearly, prepay membership.
The disadvantages of this app, are, well, those same barriers to entry.....
Tinder, and other dating apps suck. So it is reasonable to want to have a more high quality experience, especially for rich professionals who can easily afford to throw a mere 100$ or so for a high quality experience.