Under Proxmox any kind of network load have an abnormal impact on cpu load, often almost freezing the host. On esx it's a bit better but at the cost of low throughput.
From what I've read it's an issue with offload/checksum with FreeBSD.
After lots of digging on the subject I gave up and switched to VyOS for my proxmox cluster. It doesn't have a nice web panel but the load of the host is now barely noticeable.