Make a Code of Conduct and use it to control your community rather than let your community control you.
It's like parents complaining their kids are "out of control" and "there's nothing I can do". Seriously? We've been raising kids for a hundred thousand years. This shit isn't new.
I wonder what proportion of that has been done with only a couple of hours of parental/family contact per day (and those when the parents are most tired).
Also probably, for better or worse, corporal punishment has been a mainstay up until the last few decades.
In short, I don't think modern Western parenting can rely much on the methods of the past.
It's totally OT but I'm interested in thoughts/responses.