This might earn me down votes, but it is an honest question. I understand that a segment of the population, accustomed to their status as "default human", feel like they're losing that, and I can empathize. (In fact, I am a member of that cohort wrt most checklist identity-traits people think of.) I also understand that folks with minority viewpoints are used to never seeing their preferred policy implemented. (Again, this describes me; many of my policy preferences are anathema to the majority, just along different dimensions than Trump voters I know.) And I understand this election was a lot more acrimonious than, I think, any in living memory.
That said, the question is about the (to me) bizarre defensiveness of Trump voters. Your team won, and has a freer hand than most presidents ever get. Why are you pretending you're oppressed?