I am 42.
I am 42.
I went from Coldfusion/Php for decades to C# / Asp.net after redundancy and it was not easy. Got there in the end though, but I was fairly frustrated for a while.
I'm 43 / straight / white male with a child. Fwiw, I regret not spending more time on my physical fitness during my time off, but I'm back at it now. Just a gut feel (no pun intended), but I reckon fitness could become a factor in interviews; it certainly helps with sustaining focus though.
Interesting. Another HN post a while ago mentioned they fought any ageism by being physically fitter than those younger than them - racing the younger ones up the stairs of the building without breaking a sweat.
Actually, here's the blog post, On Getting Old(er) In Tech by Don Denoncourt: http://corgibytes.com/blog/2016/12/06/getting-old-er-in-tech...
"A year or so ago, I was attending a two-week training session with about a dozen 20- or 30-something developers. The training was on the 22nd floor and, every day after we came back from group lunches, I’d always take the stairs. The first day or two, one or two of the kids would join me, but I got no repeats. It’s pretty hard to be considered a has-been when they can’t keep up with you."
(Also I agree with his statement that 20 years of experience could very well be one year repeated twenty times; very true.)
I won't be much help since I am in the same boat as you but all I can say is keep your chin up mate and hope you pull through and find something!