One way to set the stage for a "wait/defer" option would be to remove the limit of 10 rounds per game by using random time length games where players don't know how long the game will last or how many rounds it will be. Playing more successful rounds would mean more points so this should incentivize cooperators to cooperate fast without waiting/deferring if they have confidence in the other player, and it reduces the incentive to try and game the last rounds.
To add the option to "wait/defer", you could include informational incentives/variance where players gain the ability to increase their perspective and degrees of freedom by being privy to more information sooner. For example, once a player achieves some level of points/reputation, they gain the ability to see the other player's move before they move -- this would in effect be giving them the power to defer. The other player may or may not know the extent of the other player's abilities at that time -- one or both may have the ability to see (defer), and neither may know for sure. For example, rather than explicitly stating upfront to new players that through their play they can improve their ability to see, let players discover this once they cross a threshold. Further increased powers might include the ability to see into the other player's past games, see their group's dynamics or portions of the wider network, and communicate with other group members and/or the other player during games.
As stated by Axelrod in EoC, one feature of the tit-for-tat strategy is that it's easy enough that it can be understood by anyone, and it's simple enough that it can be communicated/signaled from one player to the other through their play. It would be interesting to see how learned players -- who have gained the ability to see -- use or abuse their elevated powers of sight, either by working to better signal/communicate their intent and teach the winning strategy to the less enlightened players or by choosing to try and exploit the naivety of the other player who may be relatively blind.