How Your Race Affects the Messages You Get (2009)

Probably a combination of media brainwashing, societal expectations, and biological programming, but you can't control who you're attracted to. Maybe its worth fighting against all that conditioning, but it sure ain't easy, and IMHO shouldn't be forced upon anyone.

Everyone has features they are attracted to. You can't negotiate attraction, and so there's no reason to feel any sort of guilt if you just aren't into someone. For any particular reason, race or otherwise.

In regard to your thought, what would fighting the conditioning achieve?

I'm curious how different this would be in 2016 as online dating is currently much more popular than it was in 2009.

There's a followup post that spans 2009-2014 here https://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/race-attraction-2009-2014... .

Sadly I don't think there will be a 2017 version. The OkCupid blog has basically been dead ever since Match.com acquired them.

Anyone have any idea why men seemed to prefer Middle Easterners?