"Worse yet, by exercising options you owe tax immediately on money that you never made."
For NQSO this is true, for ISO this is false. The exercise of an ISO grant is not treated as ordinary income.
For NQSO this is true, for ISO this is false. The exercise of an ISO grant is not treated as ordinary income.
If you're single and your income is over $115K, or if you're married and your total income is over $150K, there will be tax implications for exercising your options, unless you exercise them when the spread is $0.
I think the bottom line is that ISOs are far better than NQSOs in terms of your own tax liability.