There's quite a few people that you don't know then. The median personal income in the US is $30,240 for all workers over age 15 with income.
That means half of all working people in the US have less than $30k a year in income. What percentage of your "know many people" sample make less than that?
There is very few "no-strings attached free government money" for people living below poverty.
There's no doubt that we live in a better world than the past, but I don't think it's helpful to spread this idea that anyone can succeed if they just try hard enough. That's the goal, not the reality, and it will never be the case that everyone has an equal chance to succeed.
Folks have unequal chances for sure. But a significant fraction of the differences are, what they're willing to do.
> Willing to move for the job?
Sure, how? What if I have no money and no credit? You're asking me to come up with a down payment on an apartment, transportation to another city, some kind of rental van or moving service, and a landlord who will take someone like me.
> Willing to work in a related field until you can get into your first choice?
Related field? I can't get anything above a minimum wage job. My "first choice" would be literally any job with predictable pay and hours.
> Willing to switch jobs 3 times in the first 5 years?
I'm working three jobs right now so my family can eat.
Again, this is not a contrived example. Millions of people live like this.
Its good to plan things; but sometimes the friction prevents action. That's all I'm getting at.
I'll readily admit that there is a certain reprehensibility to those who insist that the poor are just lazy. Most poor people aren't lazy, they're just depressed, misinformed, and without hope. They are fundamentally disadvantaged.
However, that's not what is being said here. No one is contradicting that. What I'm saying is that despite their disadvantage, there are ways to escape. It's never going to be easy for them. They are never going to go from poverty to a six figure developer job, but no one in history has ever jumped directly from the bottom to the top without an extraordinary event or miracle.
John Adams said - "I am a soldier so my son can be a shop-keeper and so his son can be an artist."
The American dream is not overnight wealth. It's not wealth in even a single generation. It's the chance for more. Someone who is very poor can make the most important leap of all fairly easily: unskilled to skilled labor. They can go from the guy with nothing to offer to the guy who can run electrical wiring or the guy who can fix pipes and they can do this very cheaply in a very short amount of time. From there, they can earn enough to either go to college themselves, teach themselves, or pay for their kids to get ahead.