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Comment by welanes | Hacker News Reader

> Will your spouse/significant other be OK if you spend three nights a week at hacker meetups?

The ideal spouse/significant other would be one that asks why you're hanging out at hacker meetups every other night when you've just quit your job.

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lol, yeah. I don't think that if I was a founder I'd be at hacker meetups? I don't get great coding done there. I'd rather come home, have a simple dinner, and then put a few hours in after catching up with the fam. If I was trying to hire I would go to hacker meetups, but I think you can filter for meetups that have high-quality candidates and a good engineers::non-techies ratio. And of course, only stay for the first hour of networking, skip the presentation.

I read comments like this "I want a couple of hours after work to see people I love before I get back to the very important task of more work" and cannot decide if I'm lazy, or the average startup'r is a bit mad.

Doing a 10-12 hour day every now and again because there's a deadline is fine, planning ahead for that to be an average day boggles my mind.

Sounds like you don't pass the founder test ')

Sounds a lot like my approach. I've been in business for over 8 years.

This is true, but don't take the comment so literally.

The real question is: will your SO be supportive of you needing to do whatever it takes to keep your initiative moving forward?

At least you get free food. My wife and I are fighting about this all the time. It's extremely tough to just work home and not meet other people. You'll need to socialize somehow. You go crazy otherwise. Your spouse will eventually get annoyed listening to you complaining and bouncing ideas off her.

No, no -- the ideal spouse / SO writes half the code, is your co-founder, and joins you at the meetups.

The ideal one would know why you were there if this was truly a passion of yours that you wanted to pursue.

Probably not a bad place for some first users though?

Another reason to support gender diversity goals in software.

Spouse / significant other? On HN?

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