How should I ask for help/bugfixes/solutions? How can I get across that an issue is a "showstopper" for us without demanding anything? How can I offer solutions or fixes or changes up without contributing to the "burnout" that i've seen many many times from many people that I respect and enjoy the work of.
Recently I was inadvertently one of those nameless-faceless demanders, and I had no idea that I was coming across like that until it was pointed out to me.
I want to voice my opinions, my needs, my use cases without coming across as demanding or winy. And making a PR out of left field generally causes more issues than it solves since it was made without direction or input from the maintainer.