We need an update for this saying that is gender neutral or that reverses the sexes. It's a great saying, but it is deeply rooted in traditional gender roles to the max.
I am motivated by the desire to crush my enemies, to see them driven before me, and to hear the lamentations of their children?
Um, no. I don't think children works. Tossing out possibilities (that probably all suck):
Chattel property?
Loved ones?
Lovers?
Spouses?
(But thanks! I never am sure how to hit the right conversational note on hn.)