I am not sure one needed family members in military to learn about invasion. The invasion of Iraq surfaced immediately after the 9/11 attacks. [1]
Guardian reported about US plans (including use of ground troops) in December 2001. [2]
[1] In November 2001 72% respondents in Gallup poll favored invading Iraq with U.S. ground troops. http://www.gallup.com/poll/8038/seventytwo-percent-americans... [2] https://www.theguardian.com/world/2001/dec/02/afghanistan.ir...